Christina Rasmussen

Thank you Psychology Today for sharing my article on how to look for our Invisible Losses. I am grateful that we are able to have this conversation as a collective. Giving each other permission to feel our emotions without shame.

5 Signs You Are Grieving an Invisible Loss It is time to acknowledge that invisible loss is a big part of our everyday life, even though a lot of us have not experienced tragic grief.

I know it feels like your life completely sucks right now, and this may feel true and it might be true.
If this was my thought I would keep this part as my own. No denying that. Life does suck after loss, sorry.
Next, we move into the last part of this thought,
I miss him too much to function.
I know you miss him, but is it true that you can’t function?
I think this is grief speaking to us telling us not to bother to go out and do life.
Let’s change this whole thought now to make it our own.
“I used to love mornings, but it's been hard lately. I miss him so much, but I want to try to at least function today.”
Do you see how we shifted this thought?
If we did this with just a couple of thoughts a day that's all it’s going to take to not be stuck in the waiting room of grief.
Don’t let grief think for you, not even for one day, not even for one thought.
Grief is sneaky. Very sneaky. But life is sneakier and more alive than grief could ever be.
Here's to your own thoughts today and every day after loss.

- Christina Rasmussen