Blocks to Breakthroughs Coaching

This is why I like IFS (Internal Family Systems) so much. It’s so important to get to know all the “parts” or sub personalities of our psyche. And especially those parts of ourselves we’ve disowned. This is what Shadow Work is all about. Learning to compassionately accept and embrace those rejected aspects of ourselves.

“If our environment cannot support our gut feelings and our emotions, then the child, in order to ‘belong’ and ‘fit in’ will automatically, unwittingly and unconsciously, suppress their emotions and their connections to themselves, for the sake of staying connected to the nurturing environment, without which the child cannot survive. A lot of children are in this dilemma – ‘can I feel and express what I feel or do I have to suppress that in order to be acceptable, to be a good kid, to be a nice kid?’” ~ Dr. Gabor Mate

Subtle agreements are made with our parents—if I give up myself, you’ll love me; if I hide, do what’s “right”, fit in, not rock the boat, our relationship will stay intact and I’ll be safe.

It’s time to heal our wounded younger selves.

Not a fan of toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing. Keep it real, authentic, and compassionate!

Always a good reminder, especially for all those other people you know who are control freaks 😉