The Gift

What we have is the present moment. Some moments include feelings that we call pleasurable. Other moments include feelings we call painful. We want to create moments that maximize the feelings we call pleasurable. I don't know exactly why this is, but it seems to me that we are inescapably pursuing an increase of the feelings we call pleasurable. Even if we choose to accept things as they are and let go of trying to feel more pleasurable feelings, we find that we are doing this to release ourselves of the meta-pain of resisting reality as it is, in order to create the more pleasurable experience of acceptance. My experience is that when I let go of all of it, I still feel compelled to move toward my preferred future, even if that means accepting things as they are. Sometimes, after that acceptance has been reached even deeper, there is a calmer and more empowered sense of movement toward something that is more aligned with my preferences. At that point, resisting that movement creates more unpleasurable feelings than allowing it, and so I allow it. I still don't know why or exactly how it works this way, but it seems to for me. And so my mind asks, how can I make moments that create the most pleasurable feelings in my body? And it's by maximizing that which my lens finds most beautiful, which is just another way to say, maximizing alignment with my preferences. And the preferences I find most authentic, include people being in harmony with one another, and include music, light, food, smells, and physical sensations that invoke a parasympathetic or empowering response in my body and the bodies of others. And that's the explicit purpose of The Gift, to create as many moments as possible that include humans in harmony and art that invokes pleasurable feelings in us all, at the deepest level for all the human population into eternity. As far as I can tell, beneath kinks in the emotional system due to childhood, everyone shares this preference for the future, which means that everyone has a unified shared desire at the core. If we can access that, together, and allow our minds to move in the direction of it even if we do not know how to create that reality, we may be able to live in a world of harmony between all humans, surrounded by experiences of our senses that generate the feelings we desire (art). It will happen when we are all connected consciously in that preference, so helping to remind each other that we all want that, and creating things that help others to connect that, can accelerate the process. So that's the other side of The Gift, to create experiences that connect people permanently to their internal drive for a world of harmony for all, and to help them be empowered to fulfill their particular capacity in creating that world starting now. Since we create the meaning we give to the present moment, we can give no meaning, and experience it as it is, which on it's own is an option, and if we are going to communicate, we can create meaning that is most likely to generate the feelings we find most pleasurable and are most likely to help us create future moments that will create more of those same feelings. I've found that giving the meaning that it's all a Gift, simply because it's here and I'm receiving it, generates the most pleasurable feelings and the most action toward creating future moments that will generate those feelings. That's why my project is called The Gift. It's all The Gift, and we can give that meaning in this moment, and find that at our center, beneath all painful feelings creating by other meanings, there is already an abundance of the pleasurable feelings we desire, waiting just below the surface, and there is already the empowerment that will help us create future moments that will generate more of the feelings we desire. That's The Gift Within. We are given this experience, somehow, and I'm grateful that there's this Gift Within, and that there's The Gift all around. Let us receive The Gift Within and allow it to move through us to create a world of Safety, Power, Joy, Love, and Peace for and between all of humanity.

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Like a dog lying in the sun, the natural mammalian state, free of stress, is happiness.

Somewhere along the line, we observed adults who chose to be unhappy in certain moments. They learned to place conditions on happiness. In these moments, it is appropriate to be happy. In these moments, it is not.

We then formed beliefs about how to be happy. The way to be happy is to meet these conditions, like money, a house, a wife, a purposeful career, and so on.

Because we stopped the flow of happiness as the default state and created conditions upon which it can be felt, we also created strategies of doing the things that would fulfill the conditions we created, and then we finally allow the happiness.

But it was there all along. It truly is the default mammalian state, and we can choose every moment, right now reading this, to relax into that. We can even choose to experience happiness in spite of the fact that we also have anxieties, pains, unhealed parts of ourselves. We can simultaneously be aware that there are things we are choosing to heal deeper, and also begin now, and choose happiness, now.

Because the moment is healing truly is when those parts of us forgot that choice, and remember once more, that they can choose happiness. At that moment, healing has occurred. It truly can be that simple.

And so, what better way to embody on the path to healing, than to choose happiness, now? And the way to choose it, is to recognize that it is the default state, that does not require effort, intentional gratitude, or anything else.

If it is the case that we don’t feel it to the degree that we want in this moment, we can choose, truly, to be happy with the amount of it we are experiencing in this moment. And instantly, we have more of it. We have that power. We truly have the power of our own happiness. It doesn’t require illusion or even focusing on the positive things in our life. It simply requires recognizing that it is already there beneath our pain and our disassociated numbness, and then, choosing from its unlimited wellspring, to be happy in spite of all the pain. From there, we can focus on healing the pain, and how much more effective we will be at healing pain, from a place of happiness.

It is not always a feeling, it can simply be a perspective, a chosen position internally. It comes from recognizing truly that it’s already here, and accepting that anything else in the body is a part of us that forgot that it’s always here. From this unconditional perspective, we can help all parts of us make the choice again, to be happy.

From there, we can decide what we’d like to do in our life. We do not need to have a mission, a purpose, a path, a chosen meaning, any of it. We can simply be happy, and then ask ourselves what we’d like to do with that.

For me, I’d like to drown deeper and deeper and deeper into the kingdom of happiness that can flow within my own body, and when I allow myself to relax fully into that, I feel a happy, glorious desire to help everyone else make the same choice, and to celebrate together the extraordinary, exquisite experience of happiness that flows through our every cell.

I sincerely believe I have found ways to communicate with all parts of the Self deep in the body and subconscious mind, to help them remember the choice to be happy, forever. That way, it’s not just a conscious effort to choose, but it becomes a way of being, automatic, easy, and simple. No meditations, no anything. It’s just the hum of happiness, forever.

I didn’t start this writing as an advertisement, with any intention of sharing my latest offer, it truly has been an organic post of happiness, shared fully in excitement from that place.

And, now that I’m here typing, I would also like to share:

My new offer is called The Gift Within.

It takes the last three years of me working with over a hundred people in various contexts, clearing the subconscious blocks to happiness, and brings it together in the way I truly want to offer it.

It is an all-day, in-person experience. We have an opening ceremony, and you experience the spaciousness of the entire day, knowing that all the parts of you that forgot how to be happy, will have the chance to remember again, the experience of happiness.

There are specific ways of talking to these parts of you, to help them to truly become free of limiting beliefs like “the way to be happy is to fall in love, to have money, to achieve things” and so on. The process is extremely relaxing, and people in real time experiencing deepening happiness and peace, throughout the session.

I used to do this in 12 week programs for an hour a week, on Zoom. I don’t want to do that anymore. Now, I will fly to you, or you will fly to me, and we will sit in person and employ these absolutely remarkable method of healing for an entire day, and nothing will ever be the same.

I am actively looking to connect with someone who is deeply serious to create this experience for themselves and is ready to invest in it. Reach out to me.

Here’s a gorgeous PDF I created about it:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1aF_4MTxOJC0RK4sc2U77untsHCcPyMn5/view?usp=sharing

Here’s a video testimonial from my dear friend Connor Bell who flew here to Guatemala this week and experienced it.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kgaxKBMn2B59qgbZiLX4mDR7tMx0r-7p/view?usp=sharing

And here is a video of my facilitation of a dear man in Austin:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1DVmGXt_lZnINhIm8bHdM29HizmJ6Vq7e/view?usp=drivesdk

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Fo’ real, doing this for a whole day, is legendary. I’m looking for who I’m flying across the world to do this with. Hit me up.

Remember happiness. 😁