Homefront Dads

Homefront Dads,

A conversation with another Dad who's kids are a bit older than mine, after we discussed my bonding time of keeping my kids home from daycare at times to have "Daddy-Days" and my wife does the same for "Mommy-Days". They are days we take with one or all of our kids that can be solely focused on our time together and preserve and promote our bonds and relationships.
He hit me with a question that is apparently a semi-common consensus: "why would you disrupt their routine like that?"
The phrase in his question and others' that more or less froze me, "Disrupt their routine".
That lead to a lengthy discussion that had a huge takeaway.

"Disrupt their routine"? For those that agree, do you hear/read that and actually agree with or find yourself okay with that?
Why is spending time with their parents a disruption? Why is spending time with their parents, not part of their routine?
Why are we, the parents and our kids' time with us, anything outside of normal?
Because of work obligations, household obligations, etc?
Even if you don't take the whole day, is it impossoble to take a morning or afternoon for your relationship with your children?

For those that have not ever or not in a long time, I urge you to try it and see the beautiful gains for your kids and you; for there is not light in life like the moments with your kids.

Last food for thought from an older family friend whom spent all of his days working, retiring, working and at 59, had 2 retirements as well as disability but says he only sees his kids when they need money; he said to do what he wished he could go back and do: take one day per week at least to go have lunch, pick them up from school and go to the park or anything that they are into that you can find a way to fit into.
To try and show up and actually be interested, not just going through the motions every day waiting to go to work that gets the best of you. Not saying to slack at work but, don't slack at home either where your best should be most and first.

"Be as you want your kids to see, and eventually be."

Homefront Dads,

How are you doing?
Are you just making it, or making it happen?
If you're giving your all to and for your kids and family, our handshakes and high fives go out to you.
We see so many just making it and getting into the trap of our Post subject for today:
"Comparanoia".

Comparanoia is the frenzy, roller coaster comparison to other Dads, that many find themselves in and, is a great litmus for the importance of the mindset and confidence in being your best Dadself; who you uniquely are yourself to be the best Dad to your kids and family.

If you are looking to other Dads to see what they are doing for reference and to assist with what you are doing for what fits for your family, you're on a good path.

If you are looking to other Dads to see what they are doing for fear of them being or doing better and you have no hope of being that great or you have to frantically copy everything to have and not really apply for fears of whatever, you are caught in comparanoia.

There's ways to escape and start making it happen, and a one-size-fits-most is not the best way in our opinion; there's a core framework that gets customized to you for who you uniquely are.

The best part of being a Dad is, that- being a Dad and finding ways to be better for your worlds, your children, every day in every way.
If you are always an emotional and behavioral roller coaster and comparing or downgrading yourself, is that an example or leading model you want for your kids? Your answer should rhyme with no.
You need to want to be confident in you and what makes you, you. On the Homefront as a Homefront Dad, you are the frontline parent to your kids and family which, gives you high standard requirements as the frontline example, model, rock.
That's your foundation to build off of and what makes you the best man for the best most important job because fellas, your love for your child is second to none and what is the difference between a Dad, and a donor or caretaker.

This food for thought is to motivate and challenge you, validate and congratulate your efforts so far.

If you want or need to reach out, email us and let's make it happen.