One Dope Couple

We genuinely want to help each other the best way we can in the most meaningful way we can.

Not just in a general I’m here for you kind of way. In the specific ways that actually matter to each other. The ways that make a real difference. The ways that say I was paying attention to what you actually need and I showed up for that.

Because we care about each other. Not just as spouses. As people. We care about what the other person is carrying. What they’re working through. What would make their life a little easier or a little lighter.

Life is hard enough on its own. There are already enough things coming at both of us from the outside. If we can make things easier for each other we’re going to do that every single time. Without keeping score. Without waiting to be asked. Just because we love each other and that’s what love looks like in practice.

That’s something Trone and I have always been intentional about. Not just being present in each other’s lives but being genuinely useful to each other. Helpful in the ways that count. Supportive in the ways that actually land.

That’s what partnership is supposed to feel like. Two people who are actively trying to make life better for each other because they care enough to.

Does your partner make your life easier just by being in it? Tell me about it in the comments.

There’s so much to gain from being with someone who stretches you.

Someone who doesn’t just accept every version of you but actually pushes you toward the better ones. Someone you can grow with in real time. Practice with. Work through things with. Someone who sees what you’re capable of even when you can’t fully see it yourself.

That’s something Trone and I have always been for each other.

When you’re with the right person your relationship becomes one of the greatest places for personal growth. Because you’re getting real time feedback from someone who knows you intimately. Someone who has seen you at your best and your worst and still wants to see you win. Someone whose opinion of you actually matters.

That kind of feedback hits differently than anything you could get from a book or a podcast or even a therapist. Because it’s coming from someone who is in it with you every single day. Someone with full context. Someone who genuinely has your best interest at heart.

Being stretched by your partner isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes it means hearing things you didn’t ask to hear. Sometimes it means being challenged in ways that require you to look at yourself honestly. But the growth that comes from that is some of the most meaningful growth you’ll ever experience.

Find someone who makes you better just by being with them. Be that for them too.

When I say setting goals in your relationship, I’m referring to the relationship itself.

Not the kids. Not finances. Not household s**t. Not anything external of the two people in the relationship.

Like now that yall are together....
how are you going to grow together as a unit....
what’s the point of yall being together...
how are yall building each other up physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually ...
what self work do you have to do individually to ensure the relationship thrives forever...
what values does your relationship stand on & how are you upholding those values....
I could go on & on.

REAL RELATIONSHIP GOALS

It gotta be more than I love you & you love me.
So let’s just be together. It’s not enough. I think that’s why a lot of people aren’t fulfilled in their relationship.
The RELATIONSHIP itself has to be fed...outside of adult responsibilities (finances, kids, household)

Trone & I have been married coming up on 10 years &&& we are STILL in the honeymoon “phase”. I believe us being goal oriented within our relationship has been one of the key reasons for that.

What’s some goals yall have set in your relationship?