Psychologist Inna Tkach

Uh, we all know well, how it feels to not choose yourself:
▪️do smth, cause it needs to be done (for who?), but it's not wanted;
▪️care about other people's opinions;
▪️choose compromises or «the lesser evil»;
▪️look other people and try to put yourself in their shoes;
▪️care about other people more than about yourself or not to care about yourself at all;
▪️try to guess other people’s emotions and reactions and take responsibility for them;
▪️help when you are not asked for it;
▪️sacrifice yourself for… (children, family, husband, job, etc.);
▪️even suffer! And you’ll be happy! (but it’s not for sure)
I guess, this list is endless🙄
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But we weren’t taught «how to choose ourselves».
Because it’s not profitable for our parents and their parents; our teachers and educators: our bosses and directors: our wives and husbands etc.
This cult of «inconvenience» and «sacrifice» stuck tightly in our mentality.
Hence, there are so many stereotypes and beliefs/attitudes like «Don’t ask/beg», «Don't brag», «Stop it! People are watching!», «What will people say?!», «Don’t laugh, don’t cry, don’t shout, don’t be silent etc.» - give your examples in comments🙏
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When you don’t choose yourself, you betray yourself and your body, your feelings and emotions. It can also contribute to unpleasant psychosomatic illnesses🥵
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What can we do❓
✅eradicate «not your» attitudes and rewrite them to yours, through awareness and your own desires.
✅learn how to want. You can begin with the opposite - «what I don’t want» (we know it well) and lead to «so, what do I want then».
✅ask yourself: «Do I choose myself now?», «Do I decide to care about myself, my time, health, well-being?», «I do it for my own result, don’t I?» (Honestly!), «Will I refill my spent resources/time/effort to not suffer and regret?»
✅ learn to feel and to defend your personal boundaries. To be a healthy selfish person 🙃
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It will be so weird and uncomfortable in the beginning. Sometimes, you may feel ashamed and guilty. But it requires trainings and awareness.
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📌When you are in stress situations, in the moments of confusion, try to ask yourself: «Do I choose myself now or not?»

Hello everyone!
My name is Inna, I’m psychologist and it’s my first topic in English🙃
Today we are going to talk about the rules in a work of a psychologist.I’ve chosen this topic because there are a lot of people scared to go to the psychologist.
But we have many rules and now I am presenting the most important ones.

✅First of all, Responsibility and Competence.
It’s a must-be in any professions, especially in dealing with people.
✅Protection of client's interests.
It's about voluntariness, the desire not to hurt, and the ban on giving advice.
✅Privacy - of course!
✅Promotion of qualified psychology.This rule includes objective information that I distribute to media.
✅Professional cooperation.
I must not discredit colleagues or or any other professions who use the same or other scientific methods.
✅My personal rules also include honesty and security for my client.
I will never judge client's thoughts, feelings or behaviour.

That’s all 🙂
Thank you for reading, I'd be glad to answer any questions you have.