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ASIKATSEMBELI EMISEBENTINI LEMIHLE. (Rom4:5)

Kukholwa mbamba vele kubonakala ngetitselo taMoya, imisebenti lemihle, imisebenti yekulunga, imisebenti lefakazela kukholwa kwetfu.

Asiketsembeli kuyo lemisebenti lemihle nakangaka kutsi isente sibe ngulabalungile kuGod, labatawungena ezulwini.

Kukholwa setsembele kuJesu lowasifela ngiko kanye lokusenta kutsi SEMUKELEKE KUGOD KUTSI SILUNGILE, sifanele kungena ezulwini lakhe.

Kungesiko kulunga kwetfu kwemisebenti yetfu lemihle, kodvwa kulunga lokusipho lesisinikwa nguGod sona nasikholwa nguJesu.

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HOW EGO IS RUINING YOUR MARRIAGE

1. Ego is making you refuse to apologize when you are wrong

2. Ego is making you think you know it all about marriage so you don't grow

4. Ego is making you think you can mistreat your spouse and he/she will stay regardless

5. Ego is ruining your s*x life because you are making s*x about you alone but not what your spouse also wants

6. Ego is making you avoid your spouse, your pastor, your true friends who keep accountable

7. Ego is making you refuse to pray and rely on the Holy Spirit because you don't want to be pruned, worked on, convicted and moulded

8. Ego is making you refuse to stop the affair you are in because you feel entitled that you can have the marriage and something extra on the side

9. Ego is making you avoid correction

10. Ego is making you refuse to have conversations when you are wrong

11. Ego is keeping you from seeking your spouse's opinion, damaging teamwork

12. Ego is making you come home late at night because you don't want to be questioned

13. Ego is making you defensive when you shouldn't

14. Ego is making you angry when you don't get your way

15. Ego is keeping from forgiving your spouse because you don't want to let go of offense

16. Ego is making your children afraid to approach you because you are so lost in your own bubble

Don't let ego cost you your marriage; lest loss humbles you

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde

WHAT KIND OF A MAN ARE YOU TO YOUR WOMAN?

1. THE VISIONLESS TYPE
Are you the kind of man who wants commitment from a woman yet you don't even know who you are and where you are going? Are you commiting to a woman because you see a clear future with her or just because you are passing time and want someone beautiful by your side to waste time with in your directionless life? Where are you leading her to?

2. THE EGOTISTICAL TYPE
Are you the kind of man who is so full of himself that you look down on your woman? Are you so hard hearted that you cannot see your own wrong, you always have to be right and you are not teachable? If you are so full of yourself, you will have no room for a woman in your life

3. THE DIFFICULT TO HELP TYPE
Are you the kind of man who is so used to doing things alone that you discourage your woman from being there for you? Do you wrongly believe that being a man means not showing your weakness so you suffer in silence? She is your helper, how can she help you if you shut her out?

4. THE REACTIONARY TYPE
Are you the kind of man who only displays love when your woman threatens to leave or when you feel that she is getting the attention of another man then once the threat goes you go back to taking her for granted? This is not fair. This is keeping her just to make yourself feel good. Love is consistent

5. THE OVERLY SEXUAL TYPE
Are you the kind of man who is just focused on s*x, much of your conversations, plans and actions are s*xual or geared towards s*x? Do you only treat your wife well when you want s*x? This will turn a woman off. She wants to know that you value all the other qualities that make her special

6. THE NON-SEXUAL TYPE
Are you the kind of man who shows no desire at all or attraction to your woman? Does she wonder whether you find her attractive anymore? Does your wife wonder why you no longer touch her or long for her? You are the only one she allows to desire her, don't make her wonder whether she is still your focus

7. THE EMOTIONALLY DEAD TYPE
Are you the kind of man who doesn't emotionally connect with your woman? You don't notice her tears, you don't have heartfelt conversations with her, you are flat and a conversation killer? Does she wonder how to start and keep a conversation with you? Do you avoid her? You are making her feel lonely and unwanted yet she belongs to you

8. THE DREAM KILLER TYPE
Are you the type of man who is negative and discouraging each time your woman tries to advance herself? Do you tell her no when she seeks to pursue her dreams yet want her to support yours? Are you not pursuing your dreams so you stop her from pursuing hers? Just because she is loving you doesn't mean she loses herself

9. THE BACKWARD TYPE
Are you the type of man who is holding on to outdated cultures and thinking? Does your outdated mentality stop you from being a great husband and father to the point that your family is wondering are you not seeing how much you are hurting them? Outgrow practices that please you but hurt the ones you love

10. THE WOMANISER TYPE
Are you the type of man who is with a woman but entertains, flirts and pursues other women? Are you telling other women the same sweet things you tell the one you are with? Your woman will pick these things and you stand to lose her because this is disrespectful. If you were not ready to be faithful, why did you ask her to be yours?

11. THE LOST TYPE
Are you the type of man who is easily swayed by friends, circumstances and whispers? Are you the type of man who doesn't have a firm stand? Such a man is difficult to walk with, providing no security or stability. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways

12. THE MOMMY'S PUPPET TYPE
Are you the type of man who is controlled and manipulated by the mother? It's great to honour your mother but unhealthy when it is your mother who calls the shots in your life and love choices. Man up

13. THE MONEY LOVER TYPE
Are you the type of man who is fixated on money, getting your worth from money, throwing money at problems and denying your woman quality time, care and the things in life money can't buy? There is more to life and love than money

14. THE ABSENT TYPE
Are you just her man by title and not function? Do you rarely spend time with her, rarely are involved in things that concern her, rarely there for her and the children, turning down her invites to spend time together? Love=time

15. THE ABUSIVE TYPE
Are you the type who causes harm? Do you abuse her emotionally with your words, s*xually by demanding s*x even when she is hurting, abusing her physically with your masculine arms, abusing her financially by suppressing her means to earn? You wouldn't want to be abused so why abuse her?

16. THE NON-COMMITAL TYPE
Are you the type of man who doesn't commit to anything? You leave everything to her, you don't offer yourself to action things, playing in the grey area so that you don't be held accountable? Take responsibility

17. THE BLAMING TYPE
Are you the type of man who blames every one else for your personal wrongs? Do you blame your wife, your parents, your background, your teachers, your pastors and society for your bad behaviour? If you keep looking for scapegoats, you will never grow

18. THE JEALOUS TYPE
Are you the insecure type who sees your woman as competition and want to bring her down and micro-manage her? Have you become so insecure that you are over-protective and being with you is unbearable? Get to love yourself, that way you will see she is on your side

19. THE LYING AND UNTRUSTWORTHY TYPE
Are you the type of man whose word cannot be trusted? Have you fed her so many lies and broken so many promises that she does not believe you any more? Learn to tell her the truth, she can handle it. A man is as good as his word

20. THE LOVING TYPE
This is the type every woman needs. A man who is decisive, gives clarity, is faithful and trustworthy, is conversational, caring, secure, thoughtful, mature, giving, responsible, confident yet humble, challenging and clear about his vision. He brings out the best in his woman. Gentleman, keep loving her like you do

© Akello Oliech and Dayan Masinde