Integro

Coming home

One of the interesting things about getting older is rediscovering parts of yourself you might have neglected since childhood.

In many ways, it's almost a return to yourself, as you reclaim aspects of your character you might have thought unlovable or not fitting a certain identity.

Most interesting. What positives have you noticed about getting older?⚘

This week

This week held quiet mornings and small victories.

I chose rest instead of pushing for more.

Every step forward, no matter how small, is still forward.

You don't have to move mountains to matter.

You just have to keep going.

Upgrade your coping skills

Around about the late 30s or early 40s, people might notice they start to have challenges they didn't have before.

What's happening? One answer is that the coping skills you develop early in life to help you survive stop working as well.

If you used work, sport, relationships, substances like alcohol or food to distract yourself, or numb feelings, they cease to be as effective as they once were.

The task: upgrade your coping skills. They might need a refresh, more suitable for your life stage, and more reality-based. People who can do this thrive, those that can't have increasingly more problems.