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The shadow is any part of ourselves we’ve rejected, hidden, or disowned — often just to be accepted, loved, or safe.

It can include:
- Emotions we weren’t allowed to feel (anger, neediness, pride)
- Traits we were shamed for (sensitivity, ambition, confidence)
- Needs or desires we learned to suppress
- Even our brilliance or potential

The shadow is not bad. It’s unconscious. It lives in the dark — until we’re ready to meet it.

Today we talked about emotional processing in our online MeetUp this evening. I thought I'd write a short summary on how to process your emotions effectively, so you can use this as a reference in the future.

When you are triggered ask yourself: 1) What are you thinking in the situation and what emotions are you experiencing (make sure to describe sensations and label your emotions), 2) What meaning do you give to the situation, 3) Do you know for certain if it's true (find proof of opposite), 4) What is your need in the situation, 5) What is a healthy strategy to get that need met.

These 5 steps will help you transform difficult situations and emotions into actionable steps.

Enjoy