MARITAL SUCCESS ACADEMY

BEFORE A MAN PROPOSES TO A WOMAN… HE MUST ASK HIMSELF THESE 7 HARD QUESTIONS ⚠️❤️

© Samuel Olagbenjo

A young man once told me during counseling:

“Sir, I have found the woman I want to marry.”

I smiled and asked:

“Good. But are you ready for marriage?”

He became quiet.

Many men prepare for the wedding…

But not for marriage.

Dear brothers,

Before buying the ring…

Before kneeling down…

Before saying:

“Will you marry me?”

Pause.

Pray.

Think.

Ask yourself these hard questions.

Please share this message. Some young men need this wisdom before proposing.

1. ✅CAN THIS WOMAN GIVE ME PEACE?

Beauty is attractive.

Chemistry is beautiful.

But peace is priceless.

Ask yourself:

Do I have peace around her?

Can we settle issues maturely?

Does she build peace or constant drama?

Marriage should become your place of rest, not another battlefield.

A beautiful woman without peace can make life difficult.

2. ✅DOES SHE LOVE GOD AND LIVE BY GODLY VALUES?

Marriage cannot rise above character.

Ask:

Does she genuinely fear God?

Can she submit to God's principles?

Does she have self-control?

A woman who loves God sincerely often builds differently.

Beauty attracts.

Character sustains.

3. ✅CAN WE BUILD PURPOSE TOGETHER?

Amos 3:3 says:

"Can two walk together except they agree?"

Ask:

Do we agree in vision?

Purpose?

Faith?

Values?

Future plans?

Marriage is not only romance.

It is partnership.

Can both of you build together?

4. ✅HOW DOES SHE TREAT PEOPLE?

Watch carefully.

How does she treat:

Parents?

House helps?

Waiters?

Friends?

People below her?

Character always speaks.

Marriage does not create character.

It reveals it.

5. ✅CAN SHE STAND WITH ME DURING LOW SEASONS?

Every man will have seasons.

Growth seasons.

Transition seasons.

Financial seasons.

Pressure seasons.

Ask:

Will she still stand if life becomes difficult?

Will she encourage or abandon?

Marriage is easy during abundance.

Character appears during pressure.

6. ✅DO I ADMIRE HER OR AM I ONLY ATTRACTED?

Please hear me carefully brothers:

Do not marry only for beauty.

Do not marry only for body shape.

Ask:

Do I respect her?

Do I admire her mindset?

Can she build with me?

Beauty changes.

Character remains.

7. ✅AM I READY TO LOVE, LEAD, AND SACRIFICE?

Marriage is responsibility.

Ask yourself:

Am I emotionally ready?

Spiritually ready?

Financially responsible?

Can I love sacrificially?

Can I lead wisely?

Can I protect this woman emotionally and spiritually?

Marriage is not only finding the right person.

It is becoming the right person.

FINAL THOUGHT

Dear brothers,

Before proposing…

Do not only ask:

“Do I love her?”

Also ask:

Can we build peace?

Can we build purpose?

Can we build a future?

Can we build a godly home?

The goal is not merely to marry.

The goal is to marry wisely ❤️

You will not fail maritally in Jesus’ name.

If this message blessed you, kindly share it. Some young men need this wisdom before saying “Will you marry me?”

© Pst Samuel Olagbenjo II
Marriage & Family Therapist | Founder, Marital Success Academy

7 WAYS A WISE MAN CAN HELP BUILD AND IMPROVE HIS WOMAN

© Samuel Olagbenjo

A woman once said during counseling:

“Sir, before I married my husband, I doubted myself a lot.”

I asked:

“What changed?”

She smiled and replied:

“He kept believing in me until I started believing in myself.”

Dear men,

A good husband does not only marry a woman.

He helps her grow.

He supports.

He builds.

He adds value.

Marriage is not only about receiving.

It is also about helping each other become better.

Here are 7 ways a wise man can help improve the life of his woman:

1. ✅HELP HER GROW SPIRITUALLY

Pray with her.

Pray for her.

Study the Bible together.

Encourage her spiritual growth.

A husband should not only lead financially.

He should also help lead spiritually.

Build family devotion.

Encourage church activities.

Create a spiritual atmosphere at home.

The stronger she becomes spiritually, the stronger your home becomes.

2. ✅SUPPORT HER DREAMS, CAREER, AND PURPOSE

Marriage should not bury a woman's dreams.

Support her growth.

Encourage her education.

Help her improve her skills.

Ask her:

“What do you want to achieve?”

“How can I help?”

A wise man does not fear his wife's success.

He celebrates it.

Her progress is your progress too.

3. ✅HELP HER LOOK AND FEEL BEAUTIFUL

Many women naturally love looking good.

Support it.

Buy gifts occasionally.

Clothes.

Shoes.

Bags.

Perfume.

Pay attention when she changes her hairstyle 😄

Tell her she looks beautiful.

Encourage healthy living.

A woman who feels admired often shines brighter.

4. ✅HELP HER BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Some women carry emotional burdens silently.

Encourage healthy relationships.

Help her maintain peace with family where possible.

Encourage friendships that add value.

Be her safe place emotionally.

Support her social growth.

5. ✅CREATE TIME FOR FUN AND FRIENDSHIP

Marriage should not become only:

Bills.

Work.

Children.

Responsibilities.

Play together.

Go out together.

Take walks.

Travel occasionally.

Laugh together.

Friendship keeps love alive.

Your wife should enjoy your company.

6. ✅BUILD HER CONFIDENCE

Many women silently fight:

Self-doubt.

Fear.

Pressure.

Comparison.

Speak life into her.

Celebrate her efforts.

Encourage her.

Tell her:

“You can do it.”

“I believe in you.”

Your words have power.

Use them wisely.

7. ✅BUILD TOGETHER, DON'T ONLY EXPECT HER TO FOLLOW

Many men want support…

But forget partnership.

Build together.

Grow together.

Pray together.

Win together.

Marriage becomes beautiful when both people help each other rise.

Don't just ask:

“What can she do for me?”

Ask:

“How can I help her become better?”

FINAL THOUGHT
Dear men,

Build her…

But don't control her.

Support her…

But don't suppress her.

Love her…

And help her become the best version of herself ❤️

A wise man builds his woman and his home.

May our marriages be great.

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© Pst Samuel Olagbenjo II
Marriage/Family Therapist // Best-Selling Author // Publisher // Book Project Consultant // Book Editor // Ghostwriter // Founder, MARITAL SUCCESS ACADEMY

7 WAYS A WISE WOMAN CAN HELP BUILD AND IMPROVE HER MAN

© Samuel Olagbenjo

A man once said during counseling:

“Sir, when my wife entered my life, people started asking me what changed.”

I smiled and asked:

“What happened?”

He replied:

“She helped me become better.”

Dear ladies,

A wise woman does not only marry a man.

She helps him grow.

She builds.

She adds value.

She strengthens.

Please hear me carefully:

Do not abandon your own life while building him.

Grow together.

Rise together.

Here are 7 ways you can help improve the life of a good man:

1. ✅HELP HIM GROW SPIRITUALLY

Your assignment as a helper is not only physical.

It is spiritual too.

Pray together.

Study together.

Encourage him spiritually.

If he becomes too busy chasing money and neglecting God, gently remind him.

Send encouraging scriptures.

Pray for him.

Build an altar together.

The spiritual growth of your husband affects the spiritual atmosphere of your home.

Iron sharpens iron.

2. ✅HELP HIS CAREER AND PURPOSE

His progress is your progress.

Encourage him to grow.

Support his dreams.

Ask him:

“What are your goals?”

“What do you want to achieve?”

Help him apply for better opportunities.

Motivate him to improve his skills.

Celebrate his progress.

Do not become the woman that kills ambition.

Become the woman that fuels it.

3. ✅HELP HIM IMPROVE HIS APPEARANCE

Many men try…

But some honestly need help in this department 😄

Suggest better styles.

Help with color combinations.

Encourage neat dressing.

Buy him gifts occasionally:

Shoes.

Shirts.

Watches.

Sneakers.

A good woman can quietly upgrade a man's appearance.

People should see improvement after you entered his life.

Become his fashion adviser respectfully 😄

4. ✅HELP HIM BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

Some men struggle socially.

Some forget birthdays.

Some don't call family members.

Some are naturally withdrawn.

Help him build healthy connections.

Encourage him to call loved ones.

Support good relationships.

Help him maintain peace with people.

A wise woman can improve a man's social life greatly.

5. ✅PLAY TOGETHER

Life becomes busy.

Work.

Bills.

Children.

Responsibilities.

And suddenly couples stop spending time together.

Please don't allow that happen.

Take walks.

Travel occasionally.

Laugh together.

Play together.

Friendship protects marriage.

Marriage should not only survive.

It should be enjoyed.

6. ✅ENCOURAGE HIS CONFIDENCE

Many men are fighting silent battles.

Pressure.

Responsibilities.

Expectations.

Your encouragement matters.

Speak life into him.

Celebrate small wins.

Believe in him.

Sometimes one encouraging woman changes a man's entire confidence.

7. ✅BUILD TOGETHER, DON'T ONLY EXPECT RESULTS

Every woman can marry an already built man.

Few know how to build with one.

Grow together.

Pray together.

Sacrifice together.

Win together.

Marriage works best when both people ask:

“How do we rise together?”

Not:

“What can I collect?”

FINAL THOUGHT
Dear ladies,

Build him…

But don't abandon yourself.

Grow too.

Learn too.

Improve too.

Let him help build you too.

Both of you can become great together ❤️

Proverbs 14:1 says:
“Every wise woman builds her house…”

May our marriages be great.

If this message blessed you, kindly share it. Someone may need this marriage wisdom today.

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© Pst Samuel Olagbenjo II
Marriage/Family Therapist // Best-Selling Author // Publisher // Book Project Consultant // Book Editor // Ghostwriter // Founder, MARITAL SUCCESS ACADEMY