FERTILEMOMS

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Take a look at the picture below. Look at it closely, very closely.

💥Tell me, who do you see sitting on the floor? Your sister? Your daughter? Friend? Colleague? Or just a total stranger?

💥Do you know what's scattered all over the floor? Would you like to take a guess?

💥Now let's go there....which belongs to you? The first? Second? Or is it the last one? Be honest.

I see a woman slowly being destroyed because your loudspeakers are too loud, and constantly on — broadcasting deeply rooted societal misconceptions. The pressure is overwhelming and her heart knows no rest. She finally succumbs. Depression awakened.

I see a lost woman, a broken and isolated woman, a shamed woman, a woman dying silently, in installments. A totally besieged woman with nowhere to run. No refuge.

💥And I ask you, "will you put down your loudspeaker and be the one she runs to when she needs to?"

Tell me, what emotions does that picture evoke in you?

The noise from your loudspeakers are killing her. She's squirming, trying to get away from your noise, but she cannot. Pain intensified.

I feel great sadness. I feel fear for her wellbeing, anger for how she's treated, guilt that I haven't done more to lift her burden, frustration that we still do not understand that hers is a medical diagnosis, disappointment that we do not care to understand.

💥And I ask you again, will you put down your loudspeaker and be the one that puts an arm around her in a gesture of genuine kindness and comradery?

💥Will you put down your loudspeakers and say to her, "I may not fully understand what you're going through, but I am here for you. We are in this together."?

💥Will you teach our people that her infertility is not because she lived a promiscuous lifestyle in her youth and recurrent STDs destroyed her womb, nor is it because she was a pr******te who used contraceptives, and aborted all the babies heavens bequeathed her?
Teach them that even those who remained virgins until their wedding night may still suffer from infertility.

💥Will you tell them her infertility is not because her family is cursed, nor is it because she's a witch cursed by the gods?
Tell them that she's a godly woman, still waiting on God to visit her and bless her womb.

💥Will you tell them her infertility is not because she increased her life span by exchanging her death with the lives of other people's children?
Tell them that she has always loved children, that even as she waits for hers, she remains a positive influence in the lives of her nephews, nieces, godchildren, and others.

💥And on the next Mother's Day, when your church asks "mothers" to stand for prayers, will you be the one who turns to her and says "Please stand with us. You are not alone today. You've never been alone, you have always been in our thoughts."?

💥Even better, will you be the one who has the courage to say to your pastor, "Please do not ask "mothers" to stand for prayers. Instead, ask every adult woman in the congregation to stand, because they are all mothers in the true sense of the word, and because this seemingly inconsequential but brave action of our congregation, will strengthen our church and our society."?

💥When your family gathers, will you speak up for her to your family, asking them to lighten her burden by not being so judgmental.
Remind them that their own children were simply gifts from God — nothing they did or did not do caused God to bless them with children.
Please also remind them that even though they themselves may not be childless today, there are no guarantees in life.

💥Will you join us at the table of love and help ease your sisters' heavy burden, for the sake of your young daughters who may in the future struggle with infertility?
Remember, as you lift others, so do you lift yourselves and your children.

💥Will you become a collaborator and help us change how our society sees the childless woman?
Strong people like you do not put others down — they lift them up. We need you. Donate your strengths and help change things everywhere you go.

💥And finally, will you redraw this picture for her?

May God bless you as you make up your mind to put down your loudspeaker....and pick up a drawing board.

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Happy international women's day to all TTC women out there

To all the women who have been battered because of their struggle and difficulties conceiving

To all the women out there who have been scorned and struggling with the stigmas society have put on them due to their fertility challenges

To all the matured single ladies out there who are trying to overcome their fears and anxieties

To all the single mothers out there struggling on their own to raise their child/ren and give their life a meaning

To all the women out there who wet their pillows with tears at night and come out smiling in the morning to a lot of people who depend on them for one service/product or the other in the workplace or marketplace

To all the women out there facing one struggle/challenge and almost losing their confidence

To all the women out there who have given up hope because of societal pressures, stigmas, labels etc.

Society cannot define you or live your life. Don't allow life to happen to you, take a stance today and happen to life.

You deserve to live irrespective of what society thinks or does. You deserve to be happy because your happiness comes from within, you deserve the best of life because you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. You are God's master piece. He cares so much about you. God has promised never to leave you nor forsake you.

Look up to God and always remember there is always light at the end of every tunnel.

We love and celebrate you all. Happy international women's day.

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Hello beautiful people, let's learn about the importance of knowing our BLOOD GROUP AND THE RHESUS FACTOR (-VE) OR (+VE)

This short story below will bring out some take home lessons.

Have a good read!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was inside my consulting room on the fateful day when a young married WOMAN, 28 years old, walked in, looking depressed. She sighed as she sat. The perplexity on her face said it all. There was a big burden being carried in her heart. I mustered the courage to ask "how may I help you madam?" then she answered in her frustration.

Doctor this is my 5th miscarriage in 5 years of marriage. WHO DID I OFFEND?

Now it was like it was my turn to be frustrated because how could I know the person offended in this issue. Well I summoned courage to overcome the perplexity, I went further to be sure she actually had five miscarriages as she had said by asking further quesrions. "Madam did you actually confirm these five pregnancies with pregnancy tests or scan to start with ?" She answerd yes affirmatively with tears in her eyes and her voice shaking vigorously.

Doctor I did with both pregnancy test and scan. I confirmed the pregnancy I was sure doctor.

I understand your pains madam" I responded calming her down.

Then i asked her the next question " These five miscarriages you have had, can you tell me around what time you usually have them?"

"Around 5 to 6 months doctor" she answered with tears rolling down her two cheeks.

"Calm down madam I understand how you feel" I said offering her handkerchief to clean her eyes. With the emotional atmosphere inside my consulting room I had to pause the consultation to allow her calm down and express her pains in tears. "Who would blame a woman who was lucky to get married to a supportive and loving young man at age of 23 all for her to face this kind of hurdle with five miscarriages in five years?" I said within me. The agony could only be imagined.

After the situation had calmed down, we continued our conversation because we had to get to the root of this matter before we could provide a solution to this perennial calamity that had plaqued this new, young family. From all she had said so far there was one thing that kept ringing in my mind and that was the issue of blood group incompatibility.

I went ahead to ask her "what is your blood group?"

"Doctor what does my blood group have to do with this problem?" She answerd looking surprised.

I implored her to answer the question.

She said blood group O Negative. "my husband and I did it before we got married. My husband blood group is O Positive (O+ve) and I am O Negative (O-ve)".

Now the guess on my mind was becoming a reality. I continued, "So madam have you ever done abortion before, may be before marriage?". She looked at me and was silent, put her right hand on her chin, removed it and retreated into her chair.
She breathed heavily again. After a while she said "In my 200 level, I did abortion 2 times for my boyfriend on campus. I was not ready for any pregnancy then but doctor does that have something to do with the present miscarriages I am having?"

"Well may be madam" I answered. " Do you know the blood group of your campus boyfriend?" I asked.

She answered with mixed feelings " doctor I dont know his blood group, we just dated for like three years, he was my only boyfriend before I met my husband."

"Can you call him madam to ask?" I told her. Her reaction was awkward.

"Who? My ex? Nooo doctor we no longer talk, he was not happy I left him for my present husband".

I appealed to her to at least try and make the call. She reluctantly agreed and called him. After calling 3 times he finally picked the call.

I could hear because the phone was on speaker. "Yes madam what do we owe this call o?" The voice from the other side resonated angrily "or you have come to break our hearts again.

She mustered courage and went straight to ask him about the blood group. The campus boyfriend was surprised that she didn't know his blood group in their three years together.

"So Diane you meant all the times we were together you didn't know my blood group? How would you even know when your mind was occupied with another man. Why are you asking me anyway? What has my blood group got to do with your marriage?" he asked spitefully.

When I saw the bitterness between two of them was still fresh and this was delaying my diagnosis i signalled to her to allow me talk to him. So i collected the phone and introduced my self and appealed to him to please tell her the answer. Then he revealed he was O Positive (O+ve). Then I sank into my seat.

My diagnosis was almost complete, the only thing left was to do a test to confirm it. I explained to her that all these revelations from both her past boyfriend and present husband blood group and her own blood group might have caused the collision in former pregnancies she aborted and could cause the present repeated miscarriages.

She said in surprise " I was thinking only genotype couples have problem in marriage? " I answered her no.

A couple could also have problem of miscarriages if their blood groups were not compatible. She was really shocked to know this for the first time. The next question on her mind was "does this mean I will not be able to have a child again in my life and i will continue to have miscarriages like this?" She burst into tears again.

I consoled and reassured her that there was still chance of having her own baby, more efforts would just be needed but the chance of having another miscarriage was still there.

I gave her a test called INDIRECT COOMBS TEST to do to know if clash had actually occured in her blood due to past abortions done for the campus boyfriend but before she agreed she insisted I should explain how this could be.

Then I took time to explain to her thus: "when a woman is O NEGATIVE (O-ve) and her partner is O POSITIVE (O+ve) , when the woman gets pregnant the baby will most likely have the blood group of the father which is O POSTIVE (O+ve).

When a woman with the O NEGATIVE (O-ve) Blood carries the baby with O Positive (O+ve) BLOOD, their blood must not touch each other.

If anything like abortion occurs and the O Negative (O-ve) BLOOD of the mother touches the O POSITIVE (O+ve) BLOOD of the baby, some antibody will develop inside the blood of the mother as a result of this, subsequent pregnancies of the woman will be attacked by the antibodies and the babies will be killed, leading to more abortions.

This is what I thought has happened to you madam."

She sank into her chair agian and sighed for the third time. she was overwhelmed by all these revelations about BLOOD GROUP ISSUES IN MARRIAGE. It sounded unbelievable to her that blood group could give couples this much problem in marriage. After she had regained herself, she promised to do the test and bring the result later.

Two weeks later, she brought the result, it was POSITIVE, confirming my diagnosis.

I broke the news to her, she wept again but I counselled and consoled her and promised her we would do our best in subsequent pregnancies to see she has her own child. I told her to come early when she gets pregnant again.

As she was leaving my consulting room that morning, so many lessons were learnt some of which are outlined below.

Lesson number 1:

Health care workers should educate the public more on the role of BLOOD Group and Rhesus FACTOR including the benefits and the risks such as Rhesus (Rh) incompatibility or Rhesus (Rh) immunization. Focus should not only be on genotype. More people are aware of issues of genotype more than issues of Blood group and Rhesus factor. .

Lesson number 2:

It's important to know your BLOOD GROUP AND RHESUS FACTOR INCLUDING GENOTYPE as well as that of your partner.

Lesson number 3:

Avoid abortions as much as possible whether within or outside marriage as this has consequences and complications that might lead to infertility.

Lesson number 4:

Having repeated miscarriages or early pregnancy loss, please seek proper medical attention. "YOU DID NOT OFFEND ANYONE"

Lesson number 5:

Please always tell your Healthcare providers the truth during consultations when they are asking very important questions so they would be able to offer the best care required.

Lesson number 6:

ASK YOUR HEALTHCARE PROVIDER ABOUT Rho(D) IMMUNI GLOBULIN INJECTION (e.g. RhoGAM injection) if your blood group is RHESUS NEGATIVE (Rh- Negative). Your Healthcare provider will advise you on the best time to take the injection.

Please be sure to mention your medical conditions, history of vaccinations or any allergic reactions as well.

Lesson number 7:

Premarital s*x has consequences and complications which can affect the future seriously. Please be warned.

KNOW YOUR BLOOD GROUP AND RHESUS FACTOR TODAY!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy international women's day to the women in our lives both young and old.