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WHAT IT MEANS TO MARRY A BEST FRIEND

Young people get confused when you tell them to get married to their best friend. The question that follows is "how can I marry my best friend when I don't feel love for such a person?" What if my best friend is having a lover? Does that mean they should leave their lover for me? What if they don't see me as a lover but just a friend?

To marry your best friend doesn't mean go and propose love to a best friend you already have or force them to be in a relationship with you. This is far from that.

Marrying your best friend means you should build a friendship with the stranger who approaches you in the name of love, dating or marriage. Allow the friendship to grow into best friends before you agree to marry them.

That is what getting married to a best friend is. A best friend who doesn't just like you but also loves you. A friend who doesn't just enjoy your company but also has a strong attraction towards you. That's a partner who is not with you because of s*x, money or what you can give them.

People go in search of love hoping to find someone with a beautiful heart, but end up disappointed because the beauty suddenly turned into something ugly. Yesterday they were so much important but today they feel worthless. You need to know that a beautiful face doesn't equal a beautiful heart and it is very difficult but possible to find someone with the two. The only person you can easily find both with is a child.

This is an adult you want to settle down with as a spouse, someone who has been through a lot and is no more innocent. You need time to know them and build a friendship that can save your union whenever loves fails.

To have a best marriage, you need someone who talks to you like best friends without getting tired of you. You need someone who understands the phrase "all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy". Marriage is work but you need fun to spice it up. You need a friend who plays with you like children do.

Being just husband and wife can sometimes be boring and annoying; like having a husband who orders the wife around, cook, serve me, etc without understand her needs to also be served, pampered, and feel affectionate.

Just being husband and wife can lead to lots of arguments; the wife trying to question every action and decision of the husband, spouses at each other's throat, competing for the leadership spot of their union.

It's painful to know some husbands love the beauty and body of their wives but not she as a person. It is same with some wives who respect the money their husbands have or give them but reserve no respect for the husband as a person. You don't need such people to make your marriage work. You need a friend who loves you in person not what you have or can do for them.

In conclusion "Some friendships do not last, but some friends are more loyal than brothers" - Proverbs 18:24 (GNT).

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In all sincerity...

*BLISSFUL HOME TONIC*

*Secret 1*
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his or her strength.

*Secret 2*
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.

*Secret 3*
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow *For better for worse*. In sickness and in health be there.

*Secret 4*
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.

*Secret 5*
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Ignorance
Prayerlessness
Unforgiveness
Third party influence
Stinginess
Stubbornness
Lack of love
Rudeness
Laziness
Disrespect
Cheating
Anger
Verbal abuse
_Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone._

*Secret 6*
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages.

*Secret 7*
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience

*Secret 8*
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband or wife can lose his or her good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.

*Secret 9*
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.

*Secret 10*
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.

*So today let us pray for our marriages and ask God to help us where we are lacking in the marriage. May God bless you. I love you all.*
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ADVISE TO LADIES!! See What Happens Next The Moment You Agree To Date A Married Man,

The moment you agree to date a married man, you agree to be a second class woman, and every second class person is classified as a person of lower values. Now look at it this way.. If he is with you & his wife calls, he lies that he is still at the office or on an official assignment.You dare not interrupt his conversation or query him. But you can't call him when he is at home with family.....

My sisters, you be toy? He sneaks you from his car into his hotel room but gives his wife his entire home.....

My beloved sisters grow up, please! He visits you at home & you introduce him to friends & neighbours as your boyfriend thereby blocking your chances of getting a genuine suitor, yet
you don't even know the name of the street where he lives.....

My sisters, how long will you continue to sacrifice your future? He takes you out & buys you assorted types of alcoholic drinks, yet he will never allow his wife taste even a drop of alcoholic drink. Common sense should tell you he is only doing that to get you drunk so he can truly destroy you in bed......

My dear sisters, na your body good pass for experiment? He gets you pregnant & gives you money for abortion, but when his wife gets pregnant he celebrates & gives her money for antenatal & baby things......

My sisters remember he is already raising his family👪👪👪. Oh just in case you don't know, he describes your emotions when he is with his friends but will never mention whatever happens between him & his wife. This makes all his friends see a lesser human in you......

My sisters, na your matter them take they drink beer ooo. He gives you a few cash & you're happy not knowing that whatever money he gives you is what he calls "Body no be firewood allowances" You have his picture on your phone & saved his number as "My Sweetheart" or whatever, yet your
picture cannot be found on his phone & your number is saved on his phone as generator mechanic or refuse disposer 👈👈👈........

My lovely sisters, you be learner? PLEASE let's give ourselves a proper re-evaluation today. Please help me to pass this message round to educate our ladies by tagging each & everyone on your page Biko👏👏👏 Just a piece of advice.Thanks🙌🙌🙌 copied...

DEAR LADIES : BITTER TRUTH YOU MUST SWALLOW :

1. S*x doesn't keep a man, if you like, turn 360% on bed, he will still dump you. Bleach until you become white, if he doesn't notice the qualities of a wife in you, he will leave you.
2. A man who win your love with cash may not stay forever. Real men doesn't settle down with fake women who love money.
3. The beauty of a woman can take her to a Palace but her character will determine how long she stays in the palace. Beauty attracts men but character keep them.
4. Material things definitely has its merits but it cannot alone provide the riches of a truly meaningful life.
5. Being s*xy without a character will not get you a husband, you will only get a boyfriend.
6. S*x can bring pleasure but it can never bring love, s*x is a product of love, love is not a product of s*x.
7. S*x can make a man stay with you overnight but love will make him stay for a lifetime.
8. There are some things that money just can't buy like manners, moral and integrity.
9. How you dress will definitely determine how men will address you.
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