Intimacy Oneonone

*5. INTIMATE MOMENTS*

*For Husband*
A woman never tires of hearing how much her man loves her, so consider a unique way to express your affection. This one might sound a little odd, but the surprise is what makes it work. Leave a short love note for your wife on the toilet paper roll--a ballpoint pen works best. Make sure it's visible, right on top, so she's sure to see it the instant she looks.

*For Wife*
Be intentional about showing him you trust that, if he ever does upset you, it’s from thoughtlessness, or an error of judgment; or from not fully knowing and understanding you, rather than from indifference or because he is ‘bad’. This helps him feel trusted by you, so he can let go of the defensiveness and distancing that a man instinctively adopts when he feels judged.

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*INTIMACY AND THE FOUR ASPECTS OF A PERSON*
Intimacy is not just physical, nor is it just emotional. Intimacy is
multidimensional. It intricately combines all four specific aspects of the human person: the *physical*; the *emotional*; the *intellectual*; and the *spiritual*. It is therefore important to understand intimacy as it affects and is affected by each of the four aspects of the human person.

*1.Physical Intimacy*
Physical intimacy is easy. It begins with a handshake, a smile, or a kiss on
the cheek. But physical intimacy can also be easily manipulated. Good
politicians know this as well as anyone; they spend their lives shaking hands and kissing babies, because they know that even the slightest of physical intimacies creates a feeling of closeness and belonging. It is noticeable that those who are
particularly good at engaging people during a brief encounter always use both hands in the greeting. They may shake your hand with one hand, but they will also touch you gently on the arm or the shoulder with the other. Doing so creates that extra sensation of closeness, even oneness. If such a small gesture can create a feeling of oneness, how extraordinary the oneness must be when two people
engage in s*xual in*******se.

This explains the bond created between a man and woman through the act of lo******ng. It also explains the pain people feel after separating from a person with whom they have been s*xually active. The two have become one, and then have been torn apart. Even years later, people still experience the pain and
disorientation of the separation. In a very real way through the s*xual act, two
become one, and uniting is significantly easier than separating. Many have the
sensation of disorientation after a s*xual relationship has come to an end, but
they are oblivious to the cause of this disorientation. Multiple s*xual partners
can increase this disorientation. With each s*xual encounter, we leave a piece of
ourselves with the other person and this creates the sense of being pulled in
different directions, torn in two pieces, which in turn produces disorientation.
So while I think it is important to stress that s*x does not equal intimacy, it is
also important to point out that the power of our s*xuality is much more than
physical. In fact, while the second half of the twentieth century would claim to
have fully investigated our s*xuality, I would propose that we have not even
begun to understand the multidimensional impact that s*x has on the human
person. Our s*xuality is a powerful instrument in our quest to become the-best-
version-of-ourselves; we can use it, as we can so many things in this world, to
further that cause or to hinder it. Life is choices.
It is also important to note that all of our relationships have a physical
aspect. Even in a relationship that is completely confined to the telephone or to
cyberspace, you are still experiencing the other person through your senses
(speaking and listening or sitting, typing, and reading).
Some may claim that there is no physical dimension to their relationship
with God, but again, while this relationship is predominantly spiritual, it has a physical aspect. Some people kneel to pray; others sit in a meditation position;
some raise their hands; others walk while they perform their spiritual routines
and rituals; and some prostrate themselves for prayer. Our physical bodies are
the vehicles through which we experience everything in this life.
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*DAILY EVENTS - Day 1*
1. Devotional.
2. Moments of Prayer.
3. Intimacy OneOnOne - The Seminar.
4. General Discussion/Comments etc.
5. Intimate Moments
6. Just Talk.

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*1. DEVOTIONAL*
Title: Actions Over Emotions
Text: Galatians 6:9
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*Actions over Emotions*

According to Galatians 6:9]
Let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.

My challenge for you today is to love your spouse, even when you have negative emotions toward him or her. You may ask, “Isn’t that being hypocritical?” No! It's not.

Claiming to feel something that you do not feel is hypocritical, but acting lovingly regardless of your emotions is not. When you express kindness by a thoughtful act or a gift, you do not have to claim any warm emotional feeling. You are simply choosing to be kind.

The Bible tells us not to get tired of doing the right thing. When we treat our spouse kindly and lovingly, we are doing what pleases God. He promises that eventually, if we persevere, we will see blessing.

Negative feelings are more often alleviated when they are ignored rather than pampered. When you act positively in spite of negative emotions, it tends to change the emotional climate between husband and wife. Resentment dissipates, and both spouses are more open to each other. Perhaps this is the blessing God promises! Once you’re at that point, then together you can deal with the issue that initially stimulated your negative feelings.

Let us pray!
Father in heaven, please give me the perseverance to treat my wife kindly, even when I don’t feel like it and even when I feel like giving up. I know that when I express your love, the atmosphere between me and her can change. I need your will and determination to move beyond my emotions and do the right thing. Thank you Lord for helping me.

Amen.

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*2. MOMENTS OF PRAYER*
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