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If you’re the only one calling, checking in, apologizing, and trying to keep things together… pause for a moment.

That’s not love, that’s emôtional exhàustion wearing the mask of hope.

A healthy relationship doesn’t make you feel like you’re begging to be seen. When it’s mutual, effort comes naturally. Communication flows, care is consistent, and love feels safe, not stressful.

You shouldn’t have to chase someone just to stay in their life. The right person won’t make you question your value or fight for crumbs of attention.

Sometimes, we hold on because we’re afraid to start over. But peace is worth more than a forced connection.

A godly relationship should bring you closer to Christ, not closer to tears.

So take a deep breath and Re-evaluate.

If you’re the only one holding on, maybe it’s time to let go and that’s not fàilure, it’s freedom.

You deserve a love that’s steady, mutual, and God-centered not one that drains the life out of you.

Pastor Abby

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Earlier today, I watched a video where Pastor Nathaniel called Apostle Joshua Selman "My brother."

The tone of his voice as he said those words was dripping with warmth and sincerity. You could feel the love, the honor, and the deep bond that years of friendship had built between them.

Then he went on to say so many beautiful things about Apostle Selman.

They are always there for each other.

They always look out for each other.

When one is weak, the other strengthens him.

When one falls, the other helps him rise again.

In fact, according to Pastor Nathaniel, that very morning, Apostle Joshua Selman sent him such a huge amount that his phone got hot. He couldn't even count the zeros. 😅

As I watched the video, I kept saying to myself,

"Kai! What a friendship!"

Sincerely, I was deeply moved. I envied their relationship, not with bitterness, but with admiration.

As I listened to both of them speak, I just kept smiling, my heart swelling with warmth.

Then I paused and asked myself quietly,

"Do I have such friends? At least one person?"

The truth is, relationships like theirs don't just happen overnight. They are built, nurtured, and watered with love, loyalty, and sacrifice. It was never one sided. They worked it out, probably long before fame and crowds ever came.

Neither of them neglected the other.

They invested in each other. They prayed together, cried together, lifted each other, and stood by each other through thick and thin.

Their friendship has stood the test of time. And honestly, I envy them again. Oh yes, I do. 🥰🥰🥰

But sadly, many of us today aren't ready to build such relationships. We only want to receive, never to give.

We won't sow into the friendship.
We won't show up for one another.
We won't pour our hearts out to make it work.
We hide opportunities from each other.

Instead, we envy one another. We secretly compete. We tear each other down instead of lifting one another up. The moment someone among us achieves something worth celebrating, jealousy creeps in and poisons the joy.

We cheer for celebrities who don't even know we exist, yet we can't celebrate our own friends.

We attend big programs and ignore the small ones hosted by those who truly care about us.

Oh, how we've lost the beauty of genuine friendship, the kind that uplifts, the kind that heals, the kind that reminds you you're not alone in this journey.

Honestly, as I write this, I don't even know what more to say. My heart is full, yet my words feel empty.

I pray we find such friends.

If you read to this end, could you be my friend? Let's patiently build from this level. Just be willing to give your best. As for me, I assure you that you will have my 100 percent best.

Tomorrow, we would become the next Pastor Nathaniel and Apostle Selman people would talk about.

I love you.

~ Sam Odeg

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“YOUR SPIRITUAL LIFE IS DYING BECAUSE YOUR S*X LIFE IS WILD”

Some of you are not under spiritual attack —
You’re just trying to mix holiness with horniness.

Let’s talk like men 👇🏽

1. YOU CAN’T PRAY FOR POWER AND WATCH P**N AT NIGHT

What exactly are you expecting?
Heaven to bless you while hell is clapping for you?

You pray for purity, then scroll Instagram to find temptation.
You beg God for destiny, then chase someone’s daughter to a hotel.
You cry in worship, but moan in fornication by evening.

That’s not warfare — that’s contradiction.
You’re not growing spiritually because you’re feeding your lust more than your soul.

2. S*XUAL SIN IS A SPIRITUAL LEAK

It drains your authority, boldness, and closeness with God.

That’s why after s*xual sin:

You feel distant from God
You don’t want to open your Bible
You avoid real men of God
You justify what you once preached against
You struggle to worship like before

It’s not punishment. It’s separation.
Sin weakens your spiritual voltage.
You can’t sin boldly and still pray boldly — it doesn’t work.

3. YOUR FIRE IS OFF BECAUSE YOUR ZIP IS OPEN

The Holy Spirit does not dwell in a temple that keeps inviting lust every weekend.

You can’t cry “Lord, use me” when you keep using your body to please strangers online.

Every time you watch p**n, you plant seeds of guilt.
Every time you ma******te, you fuel addiction.
Every time you sleep around, you dilute your spiritual oil.

Your anointing is not lost — it’s just buried under s*xual compromise.

4. YOU CAN’T CHASE GOD AND GIRLS AT THE SAME TIME

One will leave.

It’s either:

You die to flesh and grow in Christ
OR
You live in pleasure and die spiritually

Let’s be real:
Most brothers don’t lack calling — they lack consecration.

You want prayer and p**n.
Fasting and flirting.
Spirit and s*x.
👉🏽 That’s a recipe for spiritual paralysis.

5. GOD IS NOT THE PROBLEM — YOUR LACK OF DISCIPLINE IS

You cry, “God why don’t I feel you like before?”
But last week, you were on TikTok drooling over half-naked girls.

You ask, “God, why is my fire low?”
But you haven’t gone 3 days without “releasing” into your palm.

This isn’t spiritual warfare. This is self-destruction.
You’re killing your own intimacy with God — and calling it a “dry season.”

6. SOME OF YOU ARE NOT WEAK — JUST SPIRITUALLY DISCONNECTED

Because your s*x life is out of control.

Result?

You’re losing your authority
Your dreams are filled with lust
You’re no longer bold in the Spirit
You battle guilt, shame, addiction
You no longer hear God clearly

And it all started with that small “just once” moment.

One p**n clip.
One ma********on session.
One sneaky hookup.

Now you’re hooked.
And your fire is gone.

7. FREEDOM IS NOT IN “MANAGING IT” — IT’S IN SURRENDER & DISCIPLINE

You don’t manage lust — you kill it.
You don’t reduce p**n — you delete it.
You don’t play with s*x — you flee.

Practical steps:

Unfollow lust pages
Block sneaky links
Avoid the midnight texter
Cancel “Netflix and chill” traps
Confess struggles to brothers who’ll hold you accountable

It’s not shame — it’s survival.

-⚔️ FINAL WORD
Brother, you’re not dry because God left you.
You’re dry because s*x has become your new savior.

But s*x doesn’t save — it steals.
Lust doesn’t build — it breaks.
P**n doesn’t relieve — it destroys.

👉🏽 Come back to fire.
👉🏽 Come back to purity.
👉🏽 Come back to spiritual sensitivity.

Your calling is too heavy to live with a careless zip.
Your family, your ministry, your purpose — depends on this war.

Win it!

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