DeepSh*t

As a teenage boy my foresight was limited and your beauty was the furthest spot in you that I was able to see. Neither your deep soul was detected nor your artistic mentality.

I was charmed by your pretty face just like I was captivated by your sexy body; I was fascinated by your weird taste in music just like I was stunned by your art gallery. In other words I was enchanted by your entire being though I wasn’t captured by your sight and didn’t got the chance to form the “You & Me”.

I was obliged to give the chance of our union a hit every single day, even though deep down I was convinced that you’ll never be my destiny.

Years passed and we became just friends who aren’t comforted in their environment and who constantly criticize their community. We nagged about the religion’s dominance and how it is affecting us silently; we complained about our psychological problems and shared tools to coop with our misery.

At since I lost hope in us becoming lovers after I officially stepped into the friend-zone territory. I waved goodbye to your outstanding beauty and moved away to keep what’s left from my dignity.

Years passed and we contacted again and finally you accepted my invitation after I offered you a drink.

I Still, till now, don’t know what were your intentions, but all I know now is that I, stupidly, bragged a lot and missed my one-time opportunity.

You waved goodbye to me while leaving; though I waved goodbye to you for eternity.

Men Taking Care Of Themselves.

I’m going to put it this way. Fifty/hundred years ago women had less privilege to do what they are able to do today, their role in life was limited, same as their decisions and how they perceive themselves. And sure all these rules that were made to limit them were justified back then, after all men had the power so why not taking advantage of it to control “their” women.

But when women realized that all these rules were bu****it, and they are literally man-made (I haven’t read all cults around the world, but I’m pretty sure almost all of them were written by men) and not as sacred as they thought they were, they started applying their own rules according to their new perception of themselves and their “role” in life.

Frankly, the same applies to us, young men. We were bombarded by the masculine rules since youth; how to act, react, perform and how to behave.

But now the rules of the game have been changed, we are not able to claim if something is right or wrong by simple plain justifications, we are not eligible to declare rules that only suit our perception. After the cults have been exposed to each other, and people had the right to investigate the sacred, we then witnessed how lame these justifications are and how fool we were by following them. Nowadays, answers like “I feel/see this is how it should be” or “that’s how stuff usually goes” are marked as unreliable and can’t be counted on. The main rule that control everything now is that you either support your facts by evidences or shut the f**k up.

Emotions are not a scale anymore, you can’t feel the truth, and most probably it will give you cramps and headache. Emotions are defensive tools made by our brains so we don’t go astray from the “norm” and remain the status quo. Emotions are the tools used by smart people to control the normal people. That’s why most cults and metaphysical interpretations were based on the threat/enticement principle or punishment/reward principle, else how on earth are they expecting people to follow them. Its emotions and lack of knowledge what enslaved our ancestors. They didn’t have google, they weren’t able to interact with different ideologies, cults, facts as easily as we can nowadays, they had limited resources of information and that’s the main reason why they had no option but to succumb to their emotions. Back then emotions were a scale for truth. But today, after we have scanned the brain, and started discovering how this machinery works, and how rational it is, we know that it’s not as reliable as we thought it would be, it’s in control of us rather than being controlled by us.

So far the best interpretation of how ethics and norms were made goes for Friedrich Nietzsche. In brief, it states that usually there are two groups of people, intelligent/gifted group and an average group. Since the intelligent/talented have more power, they adopt ethical beliefs that justify their position, and since the average has less power they will succumb to these beliefs and embrace them, and that’s exactly how certain beliefs became sacred throughout the history.

Can you tell me please what the meaning of life then is? The purpose? The goal?

No matter how open minded you claim to be, or how detached from your beliefs you think you are, we all are still holding some beliefs for no other reason than they were there at first, and our brain have been defending them for too long that makes it hurtful to think the other way. If you were raised in a homophobic society, gay marriage would give you cramps in the stomach, and if you were raised in conservative society, the idea of total equality between men and women would knock you off. Even when you consciously agree with the opposite claim, you will still get the lousy feelings that were made in the first place to defend you from slipping out of the norm.

So next time when your brain gets judgmental about any topic, try to delve inside to know the reason its acting this way, and whether it can give accurate explanation for this judgmental behaviour, or just it's being rational (which is how it perform most of the time)