Confident position

The snow has not yet left the earth, but spring is already asking to enter your heart. If you have ever recovered from a serious illness, you will be familiar with the blessed state when you are in a delicious state of anticipation, and are liable to smile without any obvious reason. Evidently that is what nature is experiencing just now. The ground is cold, mud and snow squelches under foot, but how cheerful, gentle and inviting everything is! The air is so clear and transparent that if you were to climb to the top of the pigeon loft or the bell tower, you feel you might actually see the whole universe from end to end. The sun is shining brightly, and its playful, beaming rays are bathing in the puddles along with the sparrows. The river is swelling and darkening; it has already woken up and very soon will begin to roar. The trees are bare, but they are already living and breathing

It is foolish to make your life motivation the desire to make someone proud.

FIVE IMPORTANT POSTULATES ABOUT PARTS
1. Parts are laid in a person from birth. Thomas Berry Brazelton and other pediatricians believe that babies have five or six conditions, one after the other [18]. Perhaps these parts turn on after birth, while the rest wait for a certain stage of development.
If you have children, you probably remember how you put an obedient two-year-old to bed one night, and in the morning he began to answer “no” to everything you told him. It declares itself the next part. Therefore, the mind is made up of parts.
2. There are no bad parts. Gradually, you will get to know their multifaceted personalities. Most of them are very young, although they can be smart and dominate your life. By unburdening, the parts demonstrate their true positive qualities (joy, sensitivity, empathy, sexuality) and resources (focus, insight, problem solving, willingness to help) that will enrich your life.
3. The trust of the parts must be earned. The fact that a part is encumbered suggests that you did not stand up for it in the past, and then isolated or exploited it, relying on its role as Protector. So the part has every reason not to trust you. Like a feral child, she needs love and care, but will not immediately trust the one who once betrayed her. Sometimes you need to repeatedly show the part in the image of "I" and apologize. Usually this is enough, because, fortunately, the parts are not really feral children.
4. Physical and moral harm can come from a part. Trapped in horrific scenes of the past and carrying a heavy burden ever since, the parts will go to any lengths to get your attention: punish you or others, convince someone to care for them, disrupt your plans, and throw out of your life anyone who might pose a threat.
To accomplish all this, parts can make you angry, give you symptoms of illness, nightmares or strange dreams, emotional outbursts, and chronic emotional states. Everything described in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Illness can be classified into different categories of Advocates who manage people after trauma. If you look at the diagnosis from this side, you feel less flawed and want to help the Defenders get out of their role.
5. Parts are very important and deserve respect. If you build trust with them and help them change, you will find wonderful friends, advisers and companions. You will want to spend more time with them and listen to them. Conflicts will no longer exhaust you, you will help the parts to make friends, you will become a good inner parent to them. You will get used to their company