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"Tango is not romance. It is life."
People often say that tango is romance, passion, seduction.
I understand why they say it. The embrace is close. Two people share a moment. There is intimacy and emotion.
But I don't think tango means romance.
I think we choose to see it that way.
I've fallen in love many times through tango. Not only with a person. I've fallen in love with a dance, with an interpretation, with an artist. I've watched a couple dance and felt something powerful. I've embraced someone at a milonga and felt something beautiful.
But love is much bigger than a romantic story.
You can fall in love with anything that moves you.
The danger is that people confuse what they feel in that moment with something else. There is a very thin line between real life and what happens while dancing. It is easy to get carried away. Easy to project things onto another person, onto a couple, onto an image.
But tango is not only about that.
Tango is family. Tango is friendship. Tango is meeting to listen to the music, to dance, to spend time together and to go home a little happier than when you arrived.
Everything depends on intention. Why does someone get up from a chair, turn off the TV and go to dance? That intention matters.
People sometimes think that when we dance, we enter an unreal world. For me, dancing is real life. That is the beauty of tango. It is made of situations, moments and relationships.
A man accompanying a woman. A woman accompanying a man. Two friends are accompanying each other.
Two members of a family. I danced with my grandmother when she was nearly eighty years old. I danced with my mother. I started dancing when I was nine.
How do you explain romance or passion to a child? Do you think a child cannot enjoy dancing? Do you think that isn't real tango? Of course it is.
That is why I don't believe tango is a romantic Hollywood story.
Tango is life. It is simply who we are.
- Adapted from an interview with Julián Sanchez by Tango Café .space-official https://tinyurl.com/mr2z9zys
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Dancer on the right: Julian Sanchez

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In tango, there is an activity known as „chateceo”, often viewed with a certain degree of disapproval.
For those unfamiliar with the term, it refers to chatting with a desired dance partner to improve the chances of the next invitation. Usually, it is seen as a social tactic.
But what if it can also open the door to the connection we later build during the dance?
According to neuroscience, what we often call chemistry—or connection—is largely shaped during the first few minutes of an interaction. The brain is doing much of the work before we are even aware of it.
Here are three neuroscience-backed ways to intentionally build that connection.
1. Stop asking "How are you?"
Nothing kills the flow of a conversation faster than the most predictable question in existence. It produces a scripted answer, and after that, many people mentally check out. Questions that evoke positive memories are more effective. „Which orchestra never fails to move you?” Recalling a positive experience reactivates the emotions associated with it. The person answering feels better and unconsciously associates some of those positive feelings with the interaction.
2. Use their name and keep asking questions
What makes a conversation worthwhile is the feeling that the other person is genuinely paying attention. Most of us answer a story with our own story. Resist! Instead, ask a follow-up question. "What made it special?" "What happened next?"
The brain experiences attention as rewarding. Combining follow-up questions with the person's name signals genuine interest and keeps them engaged. (As a bonus, you might actually remember their name ten minutes later. 😊)
3. The chameleon effect
Psychologists have found that subtly mirroring another person's posture, gestures, facial expressions, and speaking pace creates a sense of familiarity and comfort. The key is that it has to be gradual and natural. If they lean in, you lean in. If they slow down, you slow down. Which sounds remarkably similar to what we do when we dance.. so maybe dancing starts a little earlier than we think.

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