Dove On The Window

Improving S*xual Intimacy: Husbands

https://youtu.be/oTk1B38bCJQ

Isaiah 62:5, Luke 6:38

Devotional Content:

Husbands, what can you do to improve s*xual intimacy in your marriage? Here are some practical steps that will make a difference.

First, be romantic. That comes easier for some of us than others. My dad was a romantic, so I had a good model. I knew it was important. I just had to figure out what Nancy thought was romantic. I really think the first step is talking to your wife about this. Ask her what she likes. Ask her what she thinks is romantic. Her definition and yours may differ, but you need to do things that she likes. So be a student of your wife. Remember the things she likes. Remember what works and what does not work. You can do this. You can be romantic.

Second, take time with foreplay. We live in this instant-gratification society, and that can often spill over to the s*xual relationship. Foreplay is what gives us time to prepare for the act of in*******se. It piques our senses, and it takes time. Over the course of your marriage, s*x will happen in a number of different ways, at different times, and slowly and quickly. Take the time to enjoy each other with foreplay.

Finally, make yourself “s*xy.” The best idea here is to get input from your wife, but there are some basics: bathe, brush your teeth, shave, exercise, and wear cologne (let her pick it out). Our wives like us to look nice and smell good. It will make a difference in her attraction to you.

Bottom line: Make an effort. It will be worth it, and it will show your wife you really care about her.

Today’s Challenge:

Husbands, how can you be a great student of your wife this week?

Going Deeper:

1. Dr. Kim says that one step husbands can take towards better intimacy with their wives is to be romantic. Husbands, when was the last time you did something romantic for your wife?

2. Foreplay is another important step towards improving your s*xual intimacy. Make a commitment to spend more time being intentional about foreplay.

3. Dr. Kim shares that another great step towards improving your s*xual intimacy is making yourself s*xy for your wife. Husbands, think of 3 things you can do to be intentional about your appearance for your wife.

4. How much time and energy are you willing to spend on improving your s*xual intimacy with your spouse?

5. Make a point to sit down with your spouse this week and talk about what they think is romantic.

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Devotion for Married Couples

19th November, 2020

https://youtu.be/PrIDX_T1QB8

Ephesians 4:25, 1 Peter 3:7

Talking About S*x Together

Devotional Content:

In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question: “How do you talk about s*x together?”

Talking about your s*x life together can be difficult. I have counseled so many couples who have never really talked about s*x. They may like or dislike what is happening but they never share their thoughts. Yet, I think it is essential. It is important to share your needs, wants, and desires. It’s “speaking your truth.” You are each other’s only s*xual outlet and if s*x is to be everything God designed it to be in your marriage, you can’t just roll the dice and hope it works out.

Doug brings up another point that makes a difference. It is the importance of continuing to pursue your spouse. That is God’s design. Part of it is pursuing romance and part of it is the way we live our lives with them each day. Here is my take on that. The better you pursue your spouse outside of the bedroom, the better your s*x life in the bedroom. What are you doing to pursue?

Today’s Challenge:

Share with each other something you would like to be a part of your s*x life together. Then talk together about how to grow your s*xual relationship with each other.

Going Deeper:

How does knowing that you are each other’s only s*xual outlet affect the way you look at your s*xual relationship? How do you honor each other as you learn more about each other and your s*xual relationship together?

5 :: S*x How Often

Devotion for Married Couples

18th November, 2020

https://youtu.be/fpSXw41SK5I

1 Peter 3:3-4, Proverbs 5:15-19

Hurdles

Devotional Content:

In today’s video, Dr. Kim asks Doug and Mel this question, “What are some hurdles you have worked through that improved your s*x life?”

It is interesting how God works. God has a way of making something beautiful out of something that seems terrible to us. The reality is that, at some time, we will all have hurdles that impede our s*x life. It is up to us whether they grow our relationship or hinder it. God’s plan is always growth. For all of us, the way we look on the outside will change over time. From my perspective, it seems women struggle to accept this more than men do. Part of the role of a husband is to help our wives see the beauty we see in them at every stage of their life.

Peter talks about the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”. Proverbs “tells us to enjoy the wife of our youth” for our entire marriage. When we encounter hurdles, we must keep our eyes focused on the big picture of loving each other and enjoying each other for a lifetime. Doug illustrates this well as he talks about a husband pursuing his wife and discovering who she is on the inside. I think this is powerful. For a man, this adds depth to the relationship. For a woman, she sees her husband love her in a way that only he is able to do. It helps us keep our focus where God wants it to be.

Today’s Challenge:

How does pursuing the “imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit” and “enjoying the wife of our youth” apply to you and your marriage?

Going Deeper:

As a couple, what is one hurdle that you have encountered that affected your s*x life? Have you dealt with it? If not, are you willing to begin that now? Can you see how working through this hurdle can actually improve your s*x life?

4 :: S*x How Often

Devotion for Married Couples

12th November, 2020

https://youtu.be/2e1RdvEqk5w

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, 1 John 5:14-15, Matthew 18:19-20, Hebrews 13:1-2, Hebrews 10:25

Buckle Up

I barely remember riding in cars that did not have seat belts. Then seat belts became standard equipment but no one really used them much. In my family growing up, we wore them when we traveled out of the city but not in the city. Then people began doing studies which showed that seat belts actually saved lives. It was an evolutionary process from no seat belts, to seat belts, to seat belts work. Today there are signs that remind us to ‘buckle up’ but most of us already have before we see the sign. Buckle up: it makes sense and it saves lives.

Do you ‘buckle up’ your marriage? Do you do the things to keep it safe? Here are two suggestions.

First, pray together. I can hear some of you saying, I can’t do that. That would be too weird. Yet, you can do that and yes, at first, it may be weird. People ask me, “what is one thing I can do to improve my marriage?” My answer 100% of the time is pray together. Pray for each other. Pray silently together. Pray out loud together. There is no magic formula. Just start today and pray.

Second, worship together. There is something special that happens when we worship with our spouse. In Genesis 2, we see God spend time with Adam and Eve together. There was something very special about that and it is a model for us. Worship together every week with your spouse. It will make a difference.

Buckle up. Keep your marriage safe. Pray. Worship. Start now.

Today’s Challenge:

1. What are you doing today to keep your marriage safe?

2. If the two of you are not praying together, why not begin today? Keep it simple and stay at the comfort level of the one who is least comfortable.

3. Do you worship together each week. If not, will you commit to begin this weekend?

Going Deeper:

Keeping your marriage safe is really about putting God exactly where He wants to be and that is right in the center of your marriage. Together commit to put Him there and keep Him there every day.

Day 2 Traffic Signs And Your Marriage Part 2

Devotion for Married Couples

11th November, 2020

https://youtu.be/STqAVNoGGLI

Luke 10:38-42, Psalms 62:5-6, Psalms 37:7

Slow

There are traffic signs that tell us to go slow. Sometimes it is for the safety of others. It could be a ‘school zone’ or an area close to a park. If I slow down, I become more aware of what is going on around me. There may be children crossing the street on their way to or from school. At the park, a child may be playing ball and be so caught up in the game that they do not realize that they have chased the ball into the street. By going slow, I can adjust to the situation. I am more aware and able to respond.

There are other times that the ‘slow’ sign is for my safety. There may be a change in road conditions and by going slower, I can make the necessary adjustments. Where I live there is a lot of road construction going on. Going slower keeps me safer in construction areas.

My life is fast paced. There are many days that I do not get everything done that I either need to do or want to do. I get up early, have a quiet time, work out, get dressed and go - and go - and go - all day long. I need to slow down. I need to slow down for others - especially my wife. I need to take time to be with her each day. If I am always on the go, I do not listen well or interact well. Slowing down makes my marriage better.

Slowing down also helps me. Over time a hectic daily schedule is not healthy. My body needs a rest and time to relax. My soul needs a rest and I need more focused time with God where I can really hear what He is telling me.

So the bottom line is slow down. Slow down and embrace your marriage. Slow down and embrace life. What can you do today to slow down and, more important, what is keeping you from doing it?

Today’s Challenge:

1. In your life, what would a sign marked SLOW mean to you?

2. What is one why you could slow down and embrace your marriage?

3. How can you slow down in order to hear what God is saying to you?

Going Deeper:

As you think about the benefits of slowing down, what would keep you from making those changes? How can you overcome those obstacles?

Day 1 Traffic Signs And Your Marriage Part 2 - YouTube