Rhiannon Rees Psychotherapy

Do you feel uncomfortable when people compliment you? 😳

When someone compliments you or invites you to share more openly, they see your intrinsic worth- your intelligence, work ethic, humour, and other wonderful qualities. Achieving comments like these provides evidence of how amazingly good enough you are.

But many people reject these comments as they contradicts their self-view. Though upsetting, seeing yourself as you always have done; as not good enough, is familiar and predictable and therefore safe.

When you don't feel you deserve a compliment, you dismiss it or minimise it.

I can help you to get out of this mindset. You do deserve compliments. You do look great. You did smash that meeting. People do care about your life. Until you can see this, it's hard to find real happiness and success.

Through my innovative Overcoming Anxiety online course, you can realign how you view yourself for true confidence, sustainable success, and fulfilment, improving your self-care and empowering yourself, opening doors to professional growth, work-life balance, and unshakable self-worth. >> https://zurl.co/cvrk

I hate to be the bringer of bad news - but you won't.

Many people feel like worthiness, confidence and success are just one more achievement away. If you relate to this, it tells me two things about you: you’re hard working and you struggle with low self-esteem.

Believing your worth comes from what you do, isn’t your fault. External validation never makes you feel good because it doesn’t fit with how you see yourself. It all comes down to your sense of self; your identity. If, deep down, you feel that you’re not good enough/a failure/a burden etc., anytime you get validation that says otherwise, you reject it, either immediately or shortly after.

Let's say you've been working non-stop and giving your all to get a promotion, you finally get it but then you immediately feel anxious, unsure if you can live up to your new responsibilities. You feel deflated and anxious and set yourself a new target - to do well in the position. You don't feel that you deserve to have hit your goal and a new cycle of stress begins.

Living like this is exhausting, but it doesn't need to be permanent. You can develop techniques to breakdown and manage these feelings, so you can stop waiting to be happy and start actually smiling. Untraining your mind and empowering yourself to respect and celebrate your achievements isn't easy, but there are therapists, like myself, who can support you on this journey.

Whether it's a self-paced course on understanding and managing your anxiety or more intensive 1:1 therapy sessions, you can make changes that leave you with a fresh, healthier outlook. Click here to learn more. >> https://zurl.co/zgN0

Do you believe that therapy is a luxury that should be reserved for those with the most severe problems? Too many people have this belief, and it is completely wrong! ❌

Waiting until you’re at your worst to seek help is like waiting until you’re starving to eat. It makes no sense. Treating a problem as soon as you notice the first symptoms can make a big difference in how fast it takes for you to get a handle on your condition and on how long you struggle for.

Far too many people prolong their difficulties by thinking that there is a certain level you have to reach before you can consider seeking support for anxiety. You don't need to exhibit set behaviours or have certain phobias before reaching out for support. If you feel that anxiety is impacting your happiness and health, then looking into getting some support is the right decision.

In my latest blog, I explore why delaying therapy until you're at rock bottom can be really detrimental. High-performing professionals often believe they must 'tough it out' and put others first, thinking their needs aren't important. But denying yourself the support you need won't help others in the long run.

Let’s debunk the myth that therapy is a last resort. Taking care of your mental health proactively ensures you stay resilient and balanced. Read more of my insights here. >> https://zurl.co/rWz6