Gabriella Coaching - Life Coach

Is “working on relationships” necessary ⁉️⁉️
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👉 Can’t we just go with our feelings and what comes naturally??
👉 Doesn’t “working on it” make my relationship strained, far-fetched?
👉 Maybe all of it should just come naturally, without putting any effort in it.
I’m sure you had these thoughts already?
Or maybe you are asking yourself these questions just now.
We just had this discussion with our friends last weekend.
And it got me thinking.
Is there a right answer here?
I have no idea!! Truly! I have no clue! 🤪
I would be happy to know the universal law for this and also many other things in life, it would be so much easier sometimes.
What I’ve learned is that there is no such a thing as universal law for everyone. For some of you this can be a relief and maybe for others it can be a bummer, but at the end of the day … you do whatever the heck you want to do. 🤣😂😂
I don’t think there is a right way or the wrong way, there is just an impact of your actions or inactions. The effect, the consequence, the result you create with your choices.
And I chose to have a long term relationship. I chose to be married and I chose to make my marriage not just work, not just make it fine. I chose to make the best out of it. And yes it takes work. 🤷‍♀️
What kind of work? 🤔🤔
Work on myself. That is where the work starts and where it ends. It’s in my best interest. Yes it affects my husband for sure and our marriage, but it’s me who benefits the most.
And also let me be fair here. ☝️☝️
I don’t think being single, having no kids, or having short time relationships require less work.
Not at all! And is it different work? I’m not sure about that either.
Life happens to all of us regardless of what relationship status we have.
And coping with challenges requires skills that are learnt through self acceptance, self reflection and getting your butt up after failing. Here we go again. Work on yourself.
What’s authentic for you? What is true for you? That’s your path.
I know being married and having kids is what is authentic to me. 👨‍👩‍👦 🥰
And even if things go wrong, we get stuck or we go off track, I know I’m gonna do my best to find the way to get it back on track. ☹️🖕😫😤🙅🗯️
It happened before, it’s gonna happen again!
And I’m not saying WE, I say ME because I don’t know about my husband, I’m not responsible for his actions, but I’m all in 100% regardless. I have my back.
This is where my integrity lies.
And this is where I help other women to tap in.
Into their own integrity.
Whatever “work” you think you need to do for your relationship right now, do it for you first!
I can show you how.
Wanna know how you can work with me?
Feel free to send me a pm and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
Or you can book a free discovery call 👉 https://calendly.com/gabriellacoaching/discovery-call

I don’t know about you, but I don’t like the idea behind the frase: You Complete Me. 

I know it sounds romantic and so true, because it means you have found your soulmate, your perfect match. Which means you gonna be happy for ever ❤️ 🎊

At least this is what fairy tales have taught us when we were little girls. 🍎

It’s a kinda nice idea in a different world or a different universe .. 👽👾🛸

But the reality of this idea is that if I think you complete me, what I say is that I’m not good enough. I’m not complete for myself or others. I’m basically not good enough for this world without you.

It means I’m coming into this relationship with lack and I need you to fill this lack up.

Please fill my cup of worth so I can be good enough. 🙏

And you better take care of that cup being filled all the time buddy, so that I can feel secure, confident and happy always! 👆😜

This kind of LOVE can do the work at the beginning. I can use it as a shield to cover up  my weaknesses. So maybe for a while I can even feel complete. 

But you know, the truth is when you are looking for LOVE from a place of insecurity and lacking, then you will find just that.

And it won't be until down the road when you realize that you use this love to delay personal work, which might have been difficult at the time.

That is the work you want to do to find that security, confidence and abundance you are looking for.

So no, I don’t believe that LOVE can complete you, but I believe that LOVE supports the person you already are, whoever that person might be.

You want to know more about this work, jump on my discovery call. Link in Bio.