Prapti Giri

Interconnection through water
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Lama Rod Owens on Love

Love and Care: A Valentine’s Reflection

Conditional love is perhaps one of the most violent expressions of emotional abuse because we are groomed to suit the insecurities of others while losing connection to our deepest needs and joys.

Sometimes we mistake unconditional love as violent because the trauma from conditional love makes us suspicious of love.

Love doesn’t mean I have to like anyone. It doesn’t mean that I’m not pi**ed with people or that I don’t find them dangerous. It means that I want everyone to be safe, happy, and resourced knowing that the times people are out of control often means they are reacting to the tension of feeling unsafe, unhappy, or under resourced.

Love and care are not the same thing. Because I love you doesn’t mean I know how to care for you. Love is an aspiration and intention. Care is how love is put into action.

Caring for myself means that I understand that if I am under resourced, I cannot help to resource others. If I am under resourced while trying to help others, I end up draining resources from others without their consent.

I am finally learning how to care for myself as much as I have cared for others. If you do this, it will make you look selfish because everyone has gotten use to you always centering them over yourself. The drama reveals that most of the people in our lives have used our care to bypass developing real care for themselves.

Care is a boundary. You become very sensitive to the ways you feel uncared for, and you choose to organize your life to gathering resources for yourself. Again, others will take this personally even when it has nothing to do with them.

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