Sim&Prit

One of the things I've come to notice over time is when a person is performing/not being true to themselves in the role that play.

Performative dominance or submission often stick out like a sore thumb, and it's very rare that it's not some personal compromise being made.
There's nothing inherently wrong with acting slightly outside of your comfort zone for a person you care about, but it's also important to ask yourself how often you're able to truly be yourself.

Honestly, you should never not be able to be yourself with your partner.

And it's important to keep in mind that, just because you CAN act as a Dom or as a sub, doesn't mean that that's who you are.

I know how to act as a Dom and have done so. I also identified as a switch for a long time, but the reality is I am neither a Dom nor a switch.

Mutual enjoyment is crucial in a relationship, as well, as are the ability to ask hard questions.

If you're a sub dating a switch and you switch for your partner, do you truly enjoy the time you spend acting as the Dom?

I don't mean rationalizing it as a form of service to them, either. Do you enjoy the act of being dominant in the same way they enjoy being submissive?

Have you talked about it with them? How would they feel if they felt you were simply humoring their wants, and nothing more?

I'm sure that question isn't easy or comfortable to grapple with, but it's important.

It also applies outside of the bedroom. Peace that exists purely because of silence is not peace. It's a lie by omission at best, and outright manipulation at worst.

Talk to your partner.