Mora Mother

Sometimes I hate social media…

I wasn’t watching the game but couldn’t help but notice comments trending wondering if Rihanna was pregnant again. My first thought as a mom of two? It hasn’t been that long since she was pregnant & one of the worst feelings is when you’ve already given birth yet people think you are pregnant again because you haven’t “bounced back.” (PSA our bodies might still look pregnant months/years after giving birth.)

And worse than the comments of people speculating that she must be pregnant? The comments of people saying that it was disgusting for someone pregnant to be dancing like that. As if a woman suddenly shouldn’t be sensual at all if she’s pregnant? (You do know how pregnancy happens right? 😉)

P.S. And if you were still wondering if she is or isn’t, her team confirmed with that Rihanna is in fact pregnant which is so exciting & makes her performance even more impressive in our eyes!

“By now you’ve probably heard or read about Lindsay Clancy. As a fellow PMAD survivor my heart breaks for this mama and her family. Until you have lived through this darkness, it’s truly hard to understand.

There is no doubt that women are forgotten about once a baby arrives, especially after the newborn phase. We are not held or supported in the way we need or deserve. This country has failed us. Sometimes our own support systems fail us. And we realize that there is so far to go with education, support, and access to resources.

Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders are the NUMBER 1 complication of childbirth. Read that again. You can develop them 2+ years after giving birth. They do not always happen postpartum. Some women do experience them during pregnancy. We need to do more.

If you are a provider who deals with postpartum moms and has no PMAD training, I am begging you to seek out education and helpful resources for the moms you come in contact with. If you are a spouse or family member who truly wants to support an expecting mom in your life, PLEASE educate yourself on PMADs. Put together an action plan. It can’t all be on moms to figure this out.

Because even when you have a supportive family, access to mental health resources, knowledgeable friends, moms are still slipping through the cracks. And the institutions who refuse to help or continue to turn a blind eye, 100% need to be held accountable.

Before you judge a mother who has been through hell, educate yourself. Reach out to the other moms in your life and ask about their experiences. Hold this mom in your thoughts. Postpartum psychosis is a rare PMAD. But it can destroy lives if left untreated. This mom deserved better 🤍”

Words by Kimberlee].
Photo by .

Thank you Kimberlee] for this important reminder. Far too many of us understand how something like this can happen & there needs to be so much more support in place. Lindsay deserved so much better 😢💔

“For so long, I held my breath.
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As a child, from somewhere, I learned that my stomach needed to be flat.
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So I held my breath. I sucked things in. I fit clothes instead of clothes fitting me.
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And with each year, my clothes became tighter. My breath became shallower.
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I did it for so long that I did it without knowing.
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Then I had a child, who as he grew, made me blossom from the inside out.
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They told me I was beautiful.
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And I could breathe.
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When he was born, they cut the muscles that I had used to hold my breath. To fit.
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I had a second child, who as she grew, elicited the same words from others.
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And again, I could breathe.
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When she was born, they cut through more to bring her to me.
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And with that, I couldn’t hold things the way I once could. I couldn’t fit.

I learned two important lessons -
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The world loves mothers, but only when they still house their children.
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The world loves children, but not the evidence of their creation.
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The marks we get from growing them, the skin we stretch to keep them safe, the pieces that don’t quite fit the same once they’re gone -
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They’re not allowed.
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So we hold our breath.
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We suck it in.
We tuck it in.
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We try to hide the parts of us that created the children this world loves.
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We feel like failures, when we are anything but.
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We are mothers.
We are life-givers.
We are nurturers.
We are strong. So strong.
We are beautiful.
And we don’t exist to please you.
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I’m tired.
And I want to breathe.”

Words & photo by . We know so many moms can relate to this 💔 feeling like our bodies are only beautiful while growing babies & we need to hide the evidence of this postpartum. But we are tired too. And done trying to hide the evidence that we’ve grown, birthed, nurtured & raised babies. Our bodies deserve so much more respect & love for this journey ❤️

TO DO

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Becoming a new mom today can be a lonely experience…

It wasn’t until I was several years into motherhood and had met so many amazing women (whether in real life at mom meet ups or only ever connecting virtually here through ), that I began to feel less alone.

And as a new mom I downloaded so many different apps and joined plenty of mom Facebook groups in a desperate attempt to find support & solidarity for how hard this transition was for me...

But I struggled to find somewhere that felt like a safe space to share openly & ask for help with difficult things like postpartum depression & very scary intrusive thoughts. And seeing no one else sharing the hard parts made it feel like I was alone in feeling like this.

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I’ve included a link in bio to download the app - it is totally free! (But some of the features like your very own dedicated team of specialists will be a paid feature soon so definitely join soon to try that out for free while you can!)