Selina Carter, RCC

❤️ this from Kelly Mahler

Massive lens shift here! And desperately needed!

Found on TimberNook

It's important to remember that we don't always need to entertain children. ❤

"We are a society afraid of boredom. We are addicted to entertainment and the stimulation of certain neuro centers in the brain. We are losing the ability to just be.

When we deny our children their God-given right to boredom, we are restricting their development.

Do you remember the hours you spent in boredom as a child? We would daydream in the waiting room, stare at the dust motes dancing in the sunlight, invent new games, draw, read, create, research. We were building important neuro pathways. Did we whine to our parents that we were bored? Of course! But we quickly learned that this would only lead to chores or being forced outside regardless of temperature or weather.

When we had a question, there was no Google. We had to ask another person, look it up in a book, or, gasp, ruminate on it until we found the answer within our own brains. We developed common sense and logic, because we were experiencing the world firsthand and engaging our problem solving.

So, don’t be afraid of boredom! Every generation before this one has had to learn to live with it. And they have benefited because of it.

Give your children the gift of boredom." - Homeschooling with the Classics

Found on All thats left unsaid.

4 yrs later and this is what I needed

I see this dynamic a lot and it can also be boys on the receiving end. While it might be true that someone's hurtful behaviour may be a misguided attempt to show their interest or affection, we shouldn't just dismiss it as such.

Sending the message that mean behaviour implies romance, or shrugging off the behaviour as a normal right of passage is confusing and fails to teach kids appropriate boundaries and healthy ways to express their feelings.

It's important for our children to understand their right to set limits and for adults to explicitly teach kids how to assert their autonomy in a meaningful and respectful way.

Via AhaParenting.com

Never Tell Her: "He's Mean Because He Likes You" Violence and aggression are never signs of love or affection.