Trauma Based Parenting

Attention Foster + Adoptive Parents.
The wait is over! Trauma Based Parenting is available now.

If you're struggling with your child's behaviours, if you're wondering why your parenting strategies aren't working, if you've ever felt alone and overwhelmed on your journey | this book is for you!

Mixed in with some stories of our years of fostering and adopting, you'll learn all about the body's reaction to fight/flight and how to approach your child through the lens of trauma.

You can purchase the book from Amazon here:
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This thought has been running through my mind today.

What if we were really, truly for reunification?

Like, not in the sense that reunification happened to us as foster parents. But in the sense that we embodied that reunification is the goal of foster parenting?

How would we parent differently?
How would we shift our thinking?

Would the way we train foster parents be different?

For reunification.
For family healing.

Break my heart for what breaks yours. It must absolutely break Gods heart to see families falling apart. To see hurting kids. And broken parents.

Break my heart for what breaks Yours.

And just like that Ethan is off to high school and Evy starts JK.

Have a great day you two. And happy birthday to Miss Evelyn.

The period of waiting.

I find myself once again in the hardest season of all as a foster parent.

The season of wait.
The season of unknown.
The season of trying to distract yourself from dwelling on things that don’t have answers to them.

Have you been in that season before?

Because I’m there right now. And I have to say it’s not my favourite season to be in.

I want to know.
I want to plan.
I want to have the answers.

Instead I must trust the One who does.
Instead I must not worry about the unknown.
Instead I must keep taking steps forward despite the uncertainty.

If you’re in a season of wait, I see you.

I know the struggle.
I know the anguish.

You can do hard things.
Like wait, and wait, and wait.

June is National Reunification Month ✨

Reunification and family preservation is something that I am super passionate about & want to share with other foster and adoptive parents.

This month is super busy, so I have created a list of posts for every other day.

I hope you will follow along, be opening to learning & post on every even day using the hashtag . Be sure to tag me in the post too so I can share.

I have tagged some accounts you should be following & some accounts I hope will also participate.

Healing can only come after a validation of the hurt.

Removal is trauma.
Separation of biological families causes pain.
Adoption isn’t just beautiful.

I believe that one of our primary roles as foster and adoptive parents is to help our children heal. And give them the skills they need to navigate hurt.

But, that can only come when we acknowledge the trauma. When we sit in that hurt with them. When we validate their experiences and pain without putting a pretty little bow on their life experiences.

Our children are capable of healing.
Their brains can grow new pathways.

But not if we continue to argue that we’re the better home for them.
Not if we continue to deny the pain, the trauma that coming into care caused.