Complex Trauma Resources

When we step onto the same side as our kids seeking to understand their perspective, we build trust, connection, and empathy — even when saying no or setting limits. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​While it doesn't guarantee an absence of meltdowns, it increases the likelihood of your child feeling seen, heard, and understood.

Empathizing with their experiences helps them realize that you truly understand them, and over time, it becomes easier for them to accept your no as a reflection of their best interests.

Parenting has no shortcuts, but this tool is essential for fostering connection in times of heightened disconnection.

For more information and a script to play around with, watch our reel, “Maintaining connection when you have to say "No"

If you have never had anyone teach you what sadness or anger looks or feels like, it just feels like chaos.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​An incredibly effective way to teach emotional awareness is by modelling them when we experience an emotion (e.g. sadness, frustration, disappointment) and talking out loud about our process so our kids can make sense of what we are doing.

By providing them with a roadmap to follow and experiment with, we empower our kids to explore their own emotional landscape. Remember, they'll need to see the roadmap many times before they can effectively navigate it themselves.

For more information and a script to play around with, watch this week's reel, “How to help kids learn what they think or feel inside.”

Being part of any family—especially as a foster or adoptive child—can bring up fears and worries about differences. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Foster and adoptive children may feel scared or uncertain about where they fit in.

As parents, it's our role to provide a sense of security and acceptance for who our children are.

When we talk openly and respectfully and sometimes, playfully about all the ways (including ourselves) we are the same and different, we help our children feel seen, heard, and valued.

For more information and a script to play with, watch this week's reel, “How to talk about differences and build connection.”