Jessica Mowforth, RNT, CNP

Metaphorical Mask #1 - The Mask of Masculinity and the ways in which women utilize it to keep themselves hidden.

Is this you?

All week I’ve broken down some of the ways in which this mask shows up, what’s underneath it, why you’d want to take it off and how you can do just that.

Take a SWIPE to get the Coles notes here and don’t forget to SAVE for a cheeky little reminder later 💕

Stay tuned for mask #2 (The Chameleon) coming atcha Monday!

Happy Saturday ya’ll!
xx

Communication not your strong suit?

Based on last weeks poll, you’re not alone girlfriend! 46% of you voted for communication as your biggest challenge, especially in your relationships.

Give these “swaps” a go and if you’d like to learn more, drop the words “COMMUNICATION WOES” in my DM’s and we can get super specific to you.

Happy Monday, I dare you to keep your heart open this week 😉

Communication is your #1 tool to having truly intimate connections and feeling seen and heard.

I usually hear “chemistry” from people when they tell me what they want in their relationship.

The bad news - the chemistry you feel in the beginning will not last the duration of the partnership. The good news - new chemistry can be created and it has nothing to do with physicalities and everything to do with compatibility and communication.

Here are 6 common mistakes people make when communicating.

I want to point out that these are all protection strategies and not because you’re simply a “bad communicator”.

This is why it’s so important to get intimately connected with yourself first so you can let go of the need to control, prove a point or defend yourself.

Drop some 💕 emojis in the comment section below if you also believe communication is a power tool for connection.

The term “self love” grosses me out and here’s why…

I do not believe that you can learn how to love yourself from anything outside of yourself.

As much as bubble baths, pedicures, fancy treatments and trendy clothes are great and can support your self-care and expression, it’s all external and it can NOT be the source or the catalyst to you loving yourself.

You can’t eat the best foods, wear the most stylish outfits and have the cutest nails and go home and tell yourself “I look fat”, “I talked too much on that date” or “why am I so stupid” and pretend to love yourself.

What matters more is what you’re saying, thinking or believing about yourself over any of the rest. The dialog between you and YOU. How you communicate to yourself is the key ingredient to self love.

Self-soothing, self-acceptance, self-compassion, self-kindness, self-forgiveness ⬅️ THIS IS SELF LOVE!

Just like the saying “you can’t outwork a bad diet” …botox, injections, red light therapy, weight lifting, green juice or red bottom shoes will never override destructive self-dialog.

I am not bashing any of the above (trust me, I love my red light, lifting weights and I could easily get down with a red bottom 😉), I just want to be clear on what I believe is the reason so many people struggle to love themselves outside of what’s trending on social media.

Comment “Yes” or you agree 💕

Have you ever said “remember that Tuesday 7 years ago when…”?

Probably not, right?!

Memories are experiences that have evoked emotions which create imprints on your brain and nervous system.

It’s the moments we remember, not the day itself.

The reason I bring this up is because you have moment after moment after moment on any given day to get up and try again.

Today doesn’t matter that it’s Monday. Who do you choose to be today, right now in this moment and the next?

Be intentional, slow down and presence yourself with what you’re doing, who you’re with and why it is you’re doing whatever it is you’re doing.

The things that aren’t working in your life the way you’d like them to are because you’re passing over moments with rapid speed planning for the next or protecting from the last.

Who do you choose to be in THIS moment?

I choose to be: courageous, kind and peaceful.

Drop some ♥️’s in the comments if this resonates with you.