Tap Together

I used EFT Tapping with my children, and looking back, I wish I had done things differently.
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Group Tapping is NOT Group Therapy I'm not a therapist. I am an EFT practitioner and Emotional Success Coach. I feel more and more comfortable with "Emotional Success Coach", because these days I FEEL emotionally successful. I am focusing my business on group tapping because in studies, it ranks nearly as effective as 1-1 tapping, AN...

EFT and Perfectionism

This little amigurumi squid gave me some trouble. Even after over 18 years of using EFT tapping regularly, I was bothered because my squid wasn't perfect. It didn't look like the picture I was working from. Why? It's tentacles were not tightly coiled, because I am avoiding acrylic yarn, and cotton doesn't have the same kind of spring... my (adorable) squid was a failure. In the past, the voice in my head would force me to pull out every stitch, and start again with new yarn.
Now, thanks to consistent use of EFT, I have a cheerleader voice in my head... but it also sees the truth of things. That voice said, "It's adorable! It still looks like a squid! If you block the tentacles in coils, I bet your squid will look great!"

So here is my squid in it's very unique blocking position. (for the non-knitters/crocheters: blocking is when you wash or dampen knit or crochet items and dry them in the shape you want them to be in). If you want an honest, but positive voice leading your own inner monolog, consider learning EFT, and using it regularly.

It might take a while to develop your own cheerleader, because change is not an event, it's a process... but you can choose when you start.

Tapping in Real Life

A few weeks back, I had a new experience as a result of my EFT tapping adventures.
I was talking to a man that I know and I accidentally offended him. He got very angry and was yelling at me. I could SEE that he was upset, but I couldn't FEEL it. It was like I had a shield around me and his anger was safely bouncing off. It didn't reach my heart, and it didn't dysregulate my nervous system. It didn't ruin my day.

What it did was to make me curious about the why. WHY didn't it bother me? I think I have just done enough tapping that an angry man yelling at me doesn't necessarily feel unsafe. Instead of reacting from old traumas, my body evaluated the other factors. He was at work. I have a sort of client relationship to him. He would be foolish to do anything violent. I had never experienced violence from him. All of these factors meant that I didn't react to his anger with fear or with anger of my own. I apologized for upsetting him, let him know I needed to leave to get to an appointment, and I left. He kept yelling after me...but it didn't matter. He didn't chase me, and I wasn't unsafe.
Emotions are important. They give us important information about what is happening around us. Emotional Freedom can look like getting accurate information in the moment.