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Questions are key to connection. Think of it as the secret ingredient to getting more cooperation, listening ears and fun times baked into your connection cake!!!​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​WHY? The truth of it is our kids spend a huge part of their day being TOLD what to do by their parents or teachers. So our curious questions show a child that we see them, we hear them and that what they have to say matters to us. It's like stepping into their world, rather than dragging them through ours all the time!!

How can you introduce questions like these ones?
▶ over the dinner table, make it a new part of your family routine and take turns going around the table
▶ driving in the car - sometimes when we are finding it hard to connect with someone, having a conversation side-by-side rather than face-to-face can feel a lot better
▶ with your tweens/teens - have fun and get chatting over text message

Questions like these ones, also give us so much insight into where our relationship might need some work, what's feeling really good and how to make important changes.

What are your favourite questions telling you?

It can be activating and heartbreaking in equal measure when our kids zone in on their appearance and we watch their confidence diminish. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​How quickly do we feel like swooping in and doing everything in our power to take away the hurt and the self-talk surrounding appearance?

What if we slowed down? What if we got more curious? What if we offered our power to connect and understand their struggle instead?

It's remembering this.... we can't take away the 'hard', but we can take away the 'alone'. Be with your kids in these moments instead of trying to take it away, and watch what happens!

A foundational idea to remember...​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​Big feelings aka tantrums are a healthy and normal part of child development. We promise!

Tantrums are a sign that a child cannot manage the emotional demands of a situation. Biologically, this is dysregulation.

Essentially, tantrums are designed to restore physiological equilibrium and release feelings and frustrations. Tantrums are like stress relievers for kids that allow them to release the stress hormones that they have built up.

So what is the function of a tantrum from the adult lens? It lets an adult know that a child has reached their limit. For example, that they are hungry, tired, overwhelmed, under or over stimulated, or need a boundary.

Hold in mind that in these tricky moments, ALL feelings are allowed. ALL feelings are accepted. When we give permission for all feelings, then we can help a child learn how to regulate them 🧡