Spectrum Creative Healing

It’s on these cozy rainy days that my mind races in different directions. Some thoughts seem to come and go others linger longer. If you have someone to soundboard even better then these lingering thoughts turns into something else they become hearty discussions.

The lingering thoughts today brings me to the core of most relationship issues.
We have an influence on those around us with our own insecurities and fears.

Insecurities can profoundly damage our relationships by creating a cycle of fear, mistrust, jealousy and emotional exhaustion for both partners, friends and colleagues.
Our personal insecurities—rooted in fear, low self-esteem, or past trauma—rarely stay contained within ourselves. When brought into relationships, they often act as a "silent killer," transforming into behaviors that erode trust, drain loved ones emotionally, and ruin friendships.

This is really just touching on the tip of the iceberg. There are so many layers to this topic. If you feel something mentioned here resonated with you, therapy can help address the root cause of this very sensitive issue.

Stay warm and dry -
Blessings, Elma xx

Artwork credit -

This wallpaper pattern, titled "Trellis," was designed by William Morris in 1862 and features a thorny rose bush growing on a wooden trellis with birds drawn by Philip Webb

Behavior is communication — not defiance.

When children show “problem behavior,” it’s often because their coping skills are overwhelmed. What we do next matters. When emotions are dismissed or minimized, feelings tend to grow louder and harder to manage. Regulation becomes more difficult, and the behavior escalates.

When we pause to validate and soothe, we help a child’s nervous system settle. From there, their brain can learn how to cope, regulate, and respond more effectively the next time. Over time, this is what leads to less challenging behavior — not because the child was controlled, but because they were supported.

We don’t reduce behavior by suppressing feelings.
We reduce behavior by teaching children how to handle them.

If you are interested in learning more about this topic please send me a private message.

Blessings, Elma xx

Credit - Institute of Child Psycology