Beryl Comar

My home isn't a place to keep people out. Instead, it is a welcoming place where I accept and offer gratitude for the presence of others.
When we share the joy of our homes, we offer love rather than hide it behind closed doors. The more we do this, the more the outside world can become like the sanctuary we’ve created inside.... We learn about life by connecting with others.
I am preparing my home once more for a friend that I've not seen for many years. Let us enjoy our week together Punam.

When we feel frustrated with an elderly struggling with tasks that once seemed easy, it's important to remember their own frustration. Each day, they quietly wrestle with technology that confounds them, fading memories, and bodies that no longer work as they used to.

Our patience may wear thin, but it’s important to realize that our frustration is just a fraction of their true struggle. Their challenges are marked by a deep sense of loss and a longing for the simplicity of the past.

Life's roles are ever-changing. Today, we might be the ones offering support, and tomorrow, we are the ones needing it. By treating our elderly with empathy and compassion, we honor their journey and build a bond of mutual respect. This legacy of kindness will ripple through generations, reflecting the enduring strength and grace of the human spirit.

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There is never a one-size-fit- all approach to any dementia care situation.
You may often doubt what you’re doing, what the "best" way is to handle certain situations. Just like parenting, there are lots of different frustrations and options. What I've learned is that the "best" approach is the one that works for your loved one.

So, I pay close attention to how they respond to my actions. If they seem to get upset, fearful or angry it's a sign to do or say something differently. On the other hand, if they seem comfortable with our approach, then it's probably the right one for them.
Remember, caring for someone with dementia isn't about following a strict set of rules. Some may respond well to clear and direct communication, while others may need a softer touch, even some humour, a picture or a sound, a smell.

Do you notice any particular approach that your loved one responds to better? It's okay to experiment and have a go at different methods. And if you ever feel unsure or stuck, don't hesitate to reach out to healthcare providers or dementia specialists, communication experts like me or Claudia, for guidance.
Recognise that every individual is unique, and what works for one person may not work for another. Keep observing, keep adapting, and most importantly, keep providing the love and care your loved one needs.

That's why, when you're feeling stuck or unsure on what to do, it can help to consult with a dementia expert to figure out the specific approach for your loved one. And we developed (and continue to develop) approaches like our free guide here.

Sharing and Caring Landing Page Our program offers a proactive, insightful approach to caregiving. Join us in fostering a culture of compassion and positivity. Together, we can create meaningful moments that make a lasting impact on the lives of individuals with neurocognitive disorders.