Connecting Couples Therapy

Healthy adult boundaries so kids can be kids

Things parents should never share with their kids.

This is a good one to remember, especially when in close quarters every day!

Everyone has a different social-emotional processing speed. In PACT, we call slow processors “tortoises” and fast processors “hares.”

When it comes to arguments, the hare has an unfair advantage. They can express their point quicker, leaving the tortoise, who is unable to express themself as fast, struggling to keep up.

Intervene by confronting the hare in these situations. They can slow down where the tortoise can’t speed up.

It’s important for hares to see that their advantage is ultimately a disadvantage for both them and their partner. If one partner is always “winning” fights, that means the other’s needs aren’t being met, which will eventually come around to harm the relationship as a whole.

Connecting Couples Therapy is now a group private practice! We now have both licensed and associate Marriage and Family Therapists!