Eloveate

Through eLOVEate, I work very specifically with high-achieving, middle-aged women who are struggling through the self-doubt that often comes with transition—aging, empty nesting, career changes, divorce, and more—because I know exactly what that feels like.

I'm in my own transition right now; I've recently realized I've lost my identity.

I used to be that super fit, adventurous chick. I could run 5 miles with no training, complete a Spartan on a whim, go backpacking for days, or hop in my car and move across the country knowing no one—just chasing adventure. I lived in Alaska and North Carolina as an outdoor guide. I was in the gym daily, meal prepping, lifting heavy, training clients…that identity was deeply ingrained in me.

But I’m not that girl anymore.

My body can’t handle the same level of intensity, and after almost 15 years in Arizona, my life has roots now. I can’t just disappear into the next adventure anymore. So I found myself asking: Who am I now? And what do I want that fits with this body and this lifestyle?

Honestly? I don’t know. I'm still in the process of figuring it out.

But, after some serious soul-searching, I realized I miss fun. I miss doing things for no other reason that to simply have fun - no objective, no goal, NO WORK! And that's when I realized, I missed dancing. I missed music, sensuality, movement, freedom, and creativity. So, I researched and found DivaDance—adult dance classes for women, focused on confidence and community—and I’ve loved it! Hip-hop, Latin, R&B…sneakers and stilettos 😆

Was I nervous walking in? Hell yes. But the women were so welcoming that I relaxed quickly and just enjoyed myself.

I still don’t fully know who this next version of me is. But I’m giving myself permission to enjoy the process of finding out. Besides dancing, I've also learned I love being a plant-mom, and a vegan/gluten free baker.

Next up: a paint-and-sip so I can see if I have an artistic side 😃

As I sit in contemplation these few days before the conference, I’m filled with so much gratitude and clarity of purpose.

This speech isn’t about ego—“look at me and tell me how great I am.” It’s about inspiring action. I’m above no one. I’m on this journey called life just like everyone else. But some of us have the gift of gab and can use our experiences to help and inspire others. That’s what I’ve been called to do, and I’m so grateful I have both the courage and the opportunity to do so through the Empower and Elevate conference.

I speak about self-love and confidence because that’s what my journey has been about. I’ve struggled with self-doubt, depression, unhealthy relationships, poor body image, and more. That’s what makes me effective in this work—I understand it. I’ve been there, and I don’t judge it. We all struggle with something. This just happened to be mine.

I believe we struggle to become stronger and wiser—not just for ourselves, but for others. How can we use our struggles to help those who are walking a similar path? How can we uplift the people around us?

The more we share our love and light, the more we’ll see it reflected back in the world. So it makes no sense for me to keep my struggles—or my successes—to myself. They can help others if I’m willing to share them. That’s the plan for this Friday.

I am a completely different person than I was 30 years ago, and I’m so grateful for that. My ability to quiet that voice in my head and act with courage despite doubt is something I now rely on, not wish for. My sense of worthiness has grown in ways I couldn’t have imagined, and it continues to deepen with consistent practice.

Now, I have the confidence to share my story to help others—and I’m incredibly grateful for the platform to do so.

Thank you, , for this opportunity. I’m excited to inspire the E&E women to take courageous action toward building the unshakable confidence they deserve.