Meg Carter

Connection don't happen by itself

A man loves a woman who challenges him. It creates excitement and intrigue for him. If he tells her something and she questions his authority, he becomes fascinated because he sees that she can hold her own. So he pushes back, she resists, then he stands his ground, and she caves. He wins. That's attraction for him. If she caves every time he tells her to do something, he loses that attraction.

A woman, on the other hand, doesn't like a man she can walk all over. She wants to push him to see what he will do. If he pushes back, it excites and intrigues her. She loves a man who leads. He sets boundaries and consequences. The moment he caves, the attraction is gone, and when she keeps complaining and he feels helpless, she loses the attraction and the emotional bond.

The brain processes sexual rejection in the same circuits as physical injury. When chronic sexual rejection occurs, the nervous system registers it as a real, measurable wound. This is why the sting of rejection feels like a real physical blow.
https://open.substack.com/pub/megcarter/p/what-sexless-marriage-does-to-a-man?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=5rq79d