Lawrence Life Coaching

Is this ya’ll song of the summer? Share your thoughts on this ongoing cultural conversation. We would love to hear from you. Are the lyrics a big deal? Or is it just music?🤔

So what do ya’ll think about the question Tab and Chance Brown recently asked on their podcast? Should married couples sleep in separate bedrooms?👀

We already know this is one of those relationship conversations where people are going to have some STRONG opinions, but our perspective is that where a couple sleeps doesn’t automatically tell you the condition of their relationship.

For some couples, separate bedrooms may be an intentional choice because of different work schedules, snoring, sleep issues, or simply realizing they both get better rest that way. For others, though, it could be connected to emotional distance, unresolved conflict, avoidance, or intimacy issues.

We can even go a step further in relation to healing:

Is sleeping separately an intentional choice that supports BOTH of you, or has it slowly become a way to avoid intimacy, communication, or what really needs to be addressed in the relationship? Because sometimes the exact same behavior can mean two completely different things depending on the WHY behind it.🌱

From that mindset and perspective, we don’t believe separate bedrooms automatically mean a marriage is in trouble. We think what matters is whether both people still feel connected, considered, secure, and in agreement with the arrangement.

For us personally, once we became empty nesters, we decided to utilize all the space in our home, which eventually led to us using separate bathrooms. Listen, we both have a ton of stuff AND like our things a particular way, so for US, it honestly made life 10x easier.😂

Now as far as sleeping in separate bedrooms… ya’ll already know Shon is NOT having that!🤣 But that’s OUR relationship and what works for us. We don’t believe every healthy couple has to structure their home or marriage the exact same way.

So now we want to hear from ya’ll. Could separate bedrooms work in a happy, healthy marriage, or would sleeping apart eventually make YOU feel disconnected from your spouse? Tell us WHY. Let’s talk in the comments.⤵️

Can we be honest? A lot of couples don’t ask for help until the relationship is already in crisis.😳

Communication has broken down. Resentment has been building. Trust has been damaged. One person feels disconnected, the other feels unheard, and by the time someone finally says, “Maybe we need help,” both people are exhausted.

But our perspective is that support doesn’t have to be the LAST resort.

Sometimes the issue isn’t a lack of love. Sometimes two people genuinely love each other but are trying to build a healthy relationship using communication patterns, protective behaviors, unresolved wounds, or survival habits they learned long before they ever met one another.

And just so we’re clear, we don’t coach from a pedestal and we definitely don’t pretend to have a perfect marriage.

We have had our own tough seasons. We’ve had to slow down, get honest, learn how to communicate differently, listen deeper, and become more intentional about protecting the connection between us. We’ve had to look at ourselves individually AND examine the patterns showing up in our relationship.

Many of the tools and practices that helped us navigate some of our toughest seasons now shape the practical frameworks we incorporate into Lawrence Life Coaching. We don’t just talk about the work. We’ve had to do the work too, and we continue doing it.

That’s a big part of WHY we do what we do.

Our process begins with listening. We work to understand what’s happening beneath the surface, identify the patterns and root issues keeping you stuck, and provide practical tools and strategies to help you create healthier relationships.

Take a look through the carousel to learn more about who we are, what we do, and how we help.🌱

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