Emerging Leadership LLC

The true mark of good is ♥️

You can’t simply desire it. You can’t require it. You can’t claim rank on this one.

You must develop the , the heartfelt , and most importantly, the to be of & high to those you are entrusted with.

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Stumped in a sales dialogue? Or even in a conversation with a friend or loved one?

Here are my top 6 conversational phrases to add, as adapted from the book “Exactly What to Say” by Phil Jones.

Take note: My faves are mostly questions, paint a picture, or open a dialogue to gain insight.

💡If you can’t gain insight, you can’t add value.

The goal is to understand as much as possible what exactly about *your* offer or desired outcome would your target. Whether your spouse, a peer, or ideal client.

💡Motivate derives from the word “motavus” or to TAKE ACTION. We have made it more of a word but - it is not.

💡Humans are inherently more motivated to avoid pain (and will work considerably harder to do so) than to gain pleasure.

💡Decisions are always made from a motive of emotion or logic- often both, however emotion comes first. Think of a time you left a conversation saying “it didn’t feel right”.

Do you know someone who always seems to be complaining? About everything and anything?

Are you in a season where you find yourself complaining a lot? Even just internally?

🙋‍♀️Been there.

To shift this, consider these two questions:

1️⃣What is the lesson?

Maybe better preparation or implementing a new process to prevent whatever “the issue” was. Maybe it’s a lesson in communication; in saying no, or setting realistic expectations.

Not saying you will have the answer. However, by asking the question and discovering an issue or two, you can start to create awareness then reach out for guidance.

2️⃣What is there in this to be grateful for?

Maybe during that “crazy day” (where you felt overwhelmed & complained to the world) the newest person on the team had a great attitude - even though they didn’t have the skill set to really help out otherwise. They’ll build the skill and have a winning attitude.

That’s a huge win! Did you thank them?

Maybe it’s the barista at your favorite coffee shop having a laugh with you that morning. Do you recall? What was GOOD in the day?

When you have an attitude of - magic happens.

👏There👏 IS 👏time👏

IN your day for you.

It just might look like saying “no” and checking in.

It’s so very EASY to say no nicely.

Knowing it’s at the benefit of your basic needs.

It’s also super EASY not to do - and to continue complaining and living in victim mode.

Thinking daily of the & rather than .

These are YOUR choices. Believe it or not- completely within your control.

🧐What are you *not* saying no to?

🕰No to long phone calls where you know your friend is just going to complain & gossip?

🕰No to staying up binging on tv?

🕰No to enforcing early bed time for everyone?

🕰No to sleeping in.

🕰No to taking on one more project. If you weren’t there would the world fall apart? They’d figure it out. Trust me - been there.🙋‍♀️

🕰No to enabling others?

🕰No to being the only one to do things around the house?

I have never thought poorly of *anyone* who said no because they put their basic needs first.

Maybe they’ve checked off social a bit. Not returned a call.

Declined an outing.

No biggie! Do you boo!🤗🫂

Morning meditation, exercise, mental stimulation (reading/podcasts) to me are for me to be my best self. ♥️🙏