Mind-Body With Stef

You’re trying to make the conversation safe enough for them to respond…

So you:
– explain more
– soften your tone
– add more context
– try not to sound reactive

That’s where over-functioning starts.

Not in the argument.

In the moment your nervous system decides:
“If I communicate better, maybe they’ll engage.”

But the more you compensate for low engagement,
the less the other person has to participate.

The shift is:
Stop adjusting yourself to keep the interaction moving.

Start requiring engagement instead.

“I’m not asking for conflict. I’m asking for alignment.
Please respond with a written response or a time to talk later.”

There’s usually a moment right before you explain again.

Pause there.

That’s the pattern-break.

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