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I Have ADHD, Now What?: The Stages of Grief Through an Adult ADHD Diagnosis — Jess DuBose You have ADHD. Congratulations! This is a BIG fu***ng deal and worthy of celebrating. It takes a lot of effort to navigate all of those things listed above particularly when you struggle with executive dysfunction. After talking to hundreds of ADHDers just like you, there seems to be two things h

"Why can't you just contact me once a day? Is that too much to ask?"

I found myself requesting this...again. Why was it so hard for them to do? Why couldn't we connect once a day just to check-in? Do they not love me enough? Am I being too much? Is this needy? Do they just not care?

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A common story. One I have lived through. And yet what's the answer?

For me, I was in "needy" energy. As much as it was a desire, I had made it an expectation, a demand. If they couldn't do this thing for me it meant that they didn't love me. I made up all kinds of stories in my mind about what their actions meant about who I was.

I was so attached to this idea of what a relationship (romantic or otherwise) looks like, that I couldn't be in collaboration to create what OUR relationship looked like.

Instead of sharing my desires with high intention, low attachment, I shared with the expectation that they would then do exactly as I wanted.

It had become an obligation, a demand.

Which has such a different energy than a request.

And what's so fascinating is that when I move from needy (high attachment) energy to low attachment energy, the thing that I DESIRE often SHOWS UP over and over again.

What resonated with you initially when you read the chart above? 👆

What does confidence mean to you?

What does it look like?

What does it sound like?

How does one with confidence hold themselves?

Do you know what it feels like?

These are questions I ask my clients to think about when I give them an exercise of "trying on" confidence.

ADHDers often are disconnected to their confidence because it has nearly been stamped out of them over the years.
..you're not good enough..you're too hyper..you're too disorganized..you need to get your s**t together
Etc

It's time to reconnect with your confidence and put your flavor on it.

Weirdly enough, people stop second guessing you, when you stop second guessing yourself.

You get to...
🌟own your worth
🌟recognize your value
🌟hold your head high
🌟experience epic amounts of confidence

Because YOU ARE AMAZING!!!

If you want support in learning how to do this, I have THREE 1:1 coaching spots available and would love to connect with you to see if we are a good fit to work together.