The Backyard Buddha

America 🇺🇸 is great again 🙌🏻

Real connections with people who love and respect you won’t feel anxious or intense.

They’ll feel ✨calm✨ and 🕊️peaceful🕊️

You won’t have to fight to be understood.
You won’t have to prove your value.
You won’t have to over explain.

You’ll feel safe and secure.
You’ll feel seen and appreciated.
You’ll feel totally enough as you are.

This doesn’t mean your relationships will get boring!!

Quite the opposite in fact.

Because when you’re in a healthy relationship…

You will feel relief communicating because you know your significant other wants to lovingly resolve this as much as you do.

You’re free from the “walking on eggshells” feeling you used to get around emotionally immature avoidant/narcissistic partners.

You’re emotionally free to express and be exactly who you are and be celebrated for it.

This “calm love” isn’t attractive if you’re still playing out the pattern of running from your feelings instead of supporting them.

When we’re escaping our feelings they manifest as familiar unconscious attractions.

This means you will continue to be attracted to people who make you feel anxious.

Until you start supporting that anxiety with healthy tools, strategies and mindset shifts.

I created a guide specifically to help you learn how to support your emotions.

It contains everything I learned in my 10+ year journey healing my codependency and people pleasing behavior.

You can pick your copy up here 👇🏻

https://stan.store/TheBackyardBuddha

Don’t you hate that gnawing sensation you get when you meet someone and immediately want to spend every second with them?

They are SO attractive.

They are SO interesting.

This intensity is called “limerence” and it’s a state of unhealthy obsession we get as codependents.

It stems from actually needing YOUR OWN attention.

It’s massively off putting to the other person.

They sense all this desperation and neediness radiating from you which screams RED FLAG 🚩

It makes them want to quietly excuse themselves to the bathroom then never return 😂😂

One way you can get rid of your vampiric🧛‍♀️ hunger for attention is by journaling 📝

Spend more time in the energy of appreciation ✨

Make lists of things you love or love doing ✍🏻

“I love the smell of rain 🌧️”
“I love eating keto yoghurt.”
“I love the idea of watching a movie 🍿 tonight.”

“The more you look for positive aspects in your current life, the more positive aspects will step forward to reveal themselves to you.”



When you make it a practice to fill your emotional cup on a daily basis you’ll find neediness and desperation both start to fade.

All the energy you spend pouring into everybody else gets poured into yourself which boosts self-esteem.

It raises your vibration.

When you’re in the energy of love for long enough it “charges” your emotional battery 🔋

This unlocks your personality so you can be more social, creative and generally in a great mood 👌🏻

You suddenly feel so good that you don’t need anything from anyone anymore.

You’re laughing.

You’re talking to people.

You’re acting on your inspired impulses.

Synchronicities are abundant 11:11.

You’re having fun.

But it starts with caring about how you feel 🫵🏻

You have to put in the work by focusing and journaling.

You need to take that time to ❤️ yourself.

To fill your emotional tank ⛽️

To make those energetic deposits 💰

I made you a guide showing you step by step how to use journaling to fill your emotional cup and break the toxic cycle of limerence.

Pick it up here…

👇🏻

https://stan.store/TheBackyardBuddha

Being a leader isn’t just about pushing people towards a better outcome or reality.

It’s also making the process of getting there as fun as humanely possible 👌🏻

I don’t lead with a whip nor do I admire anyone who does.