Daring Fat

Fat hate is 100% about the hater. Repeat after me... FAT HATE IS NOT ABOUT ME. It’s not ours to be responsible for, respond to, or attempt to change for. Does it affect me? Abso-f*cking-lutely. Fat hate informs decisions about the world around me in almost every way - access to medical care, products designed for smaller bodies, job interviews, ... The list goes on. And on. And on. But one on one - does an anti-fat bigot know anything about me or have a right to make any judgments about my body? Nope. Does that change when the bigot is family or friend? Nope. Do they live in your body? Nope. On good days I feel compassion for fat hating bigots... On bad days, I pity them. And when they trigger me, it’s an opportunity to explore my own inner world of feelings and thoughts and beliefs. Reject the hate - it’s about the hater - not you. Because you, my fine fat friends, are fabulous just as your are ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

Have a lovely day my gorgeous fabulous fat friends. You are spectacular just as you are ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

Thinking. Thoughts. NOT REAL! They are just constructs in our head. It’s the function of your brain to categorize, organize, and make sense of the world around us. Unfortunately, it’s frequently wrong! When you are thinking, when you are stuck in a rabbit hole of thinking, you will never achieve food and body peace and freedom. Start by learning how to simply recognize when you are thinking - vs. when you are feeling. When you’re having a sensation: sound, touch, smell, etc. What’s the difference? Pay attention. With curious non-judgmental awareness. Ask yourself... What is truly happening? And do I believe it? Does that thought match my values? ❤️

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia

Without self-compassion, change of any kind is not possible. Unlike intentional weight loss attempts which heavily rely on shame as the motivator, the foundation of Intuitive Eating and fat self-acceptance is self-compassion. Those thoughts in your head that you aren’t good enough or worthy or lovable or attractive in a fat body? You can’t battle those with logic or anger or shame. I guarantee you that they will never go away until you learn to practice self-compassion. Follow and check out her website with free self-compassion meditations. By learning to hold yourself with self-compassion you learn that you are enough, you are worthy, you are lovable, and yes - you are attractive - in any size body.

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Check out my profile for coaching in radical fat self-acceptance and Intuitive Eating, and cool skirts for rad fat folx (size 18-40+) on Etsy.
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I live and work on the traditional ancestral land taken from the people of the Cowlitz, the Cascades, the Confederated Tribes of Grand Ronde, and the Confederated Tribes of Siletz Indians. I honor the land and people, past, present, and future.
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**kfatphobia