Jimmy Rex

I want to share a quick story from our mastermind weekend in Dallas this past weekend. It was one of my favorite moments as a coach since we started this program 3 years ago.

This ludus was a special one because it was the 10th and final one for group 2. More than anything we all just wanted to share time together and enjoy each others company.

Friday night we drove NASCAR cars on Texas motor speedway. Amazing experience! Afterwards we were all hungry so we headed to a local bbq joint to grab dinner.

It was very obvious quickly that our reservation of 50 guys had overwhelmed the staff. We had 2 servers frantically trying to keep our appetizers coming and our drinks full.

After about 2 1/2 hours of waiting and only 1/3 of the food brought out, the manager came over and told me that the fryer and the grill had quit working and they weren’t going to be able to bring anyone else’s meals.

We had already decided an hour earlier that we were all going to do the $100 dinner club and leave a massive tip for the servers working so hard.

This was one of those moments that really showed me what this group is all about. I pulled everyone together and gave them the bad news and instead of having a bunch of hungry men complain and bitch and moan we all just took it in stride and laughed at the whole ordeal.

Then we pulled the 2 servers in and Told them we wanted to talk to them. I could tell they were scared, probably expecting to be yelled at anbiut the food. Instead we announced that we would be leaving them a $3000 tip to split between them and handed them the tip.

They were pretty emotional and they were genuinely confused at the whole thing. They couldn’t understand why we were all so happy and so generous considering the circumstances.

There truly wasn’t a single man in that joint with our group that wasn’t laughing and smiling ear to ear. I just sat back and took it in, so proud of this group of brothers. We headed to Whataburger and called it a night!

Do you want to know the secret to getting into the best shape of your life?

Start with your feelings, not the free-weights.

After very personal struggles with my physical health, and talking with hundreds of men like me, I’ve seen a clear connection between my body and my overall integrity.

If I found myself in a place of insecurity, shame or fear, my weight would skyrocket. Why? Because I sought out things to make me “feel better” (junk food, alcohol, TV) instead of things to make me “feel more” (being uncomfortable in the gym, proving I could have fun without booze).

You’ve got to feel it, to heal it.

My new book, Be One: How to Be a Healthy Man in Toxic Times, (pre-order now) has an entire chapter (excerpt below) on what it looks like to stop trying to feel better and start trying to feel more.

I’ll give you the confidence to put down the phone, chips and video games and face up to the feelings that are coming in between you and a passionate life.

Tony Robbins said it best, “When you have your health, you have a million other wants, but when you don’t have your health, you just have one.”

Don’t wait to live a life with more energy, vision and courage. Start now.

You’re worth it,

Excerpt from Be One: How to Be a Healthy Man in Toxic Times (Chapter 3, “Be a Warrior”)

I don’t workout because I hate my body. I workout because I love it, and so should you. Masquerading unhealthiness as "self-love" or other excuses will only lead to illness, not wellness. There’s an agenda to normalize obesity which is devastating to adults and especially children.

When I became vulnerable about my insecurities, and honest with myself about what needed to change, I took the first step towards getting into integrity with my body, mind, and soul. I was on the path of the warrior.

Technically, a warrior is someone who wages war, but truly, a warrior is someone who is capable of protecting the kingdom at all costs, because he trains. Every day he takes up his sword, but never to harm. Every day he refines his craft, but never to prove himself. Every day he gets a little bit stronger and a little bit faster, because he knows he’ll need it when he’s tested. He does this every single day because he knows, one day, a threat to his kingdom's well being will come, and he must be prepared for an attack on his integrity. Instead of chasing after a fight or looking for a challenge, he keeps his sword sheathed, knowing exactly what he is capable of.

A warrior knows his true self, because he trains every single day, making steady progress. A true warrior does not train from a place of fear or insecurity. Warriors who train from a position of devotion, growth, patience, and virtue are the ones who reap the rewards of the entire process.