Elevate With Emily

Telling someone to leave an emotionally abusive situation is like losing your sense of smell and being asked to choose a candle. 🩷

When you’re constantly told something smells good but it feels wrong—or told something is awful when it feels right—you start to question your own senses. Over time, you may stop trusting yourself and rely on everyone else instead. That’s why “just leave” isn’t simple. Rebuilding trust in your own perception takes time, compassion, and support. Real help comes from restoring self-confidence, not rushing someone out the door.

You and your partner keep fighting because the root of the issue is never addressed. 🩷

You talk about the fruit—the outcome of the argument—but never the seed that sparked it. When the top is cut off but the roots are never addressed, it just grows back later and keeps recurring. Focus on the root, and the fights start to lose their power.