EMDR Transformations

You did not decide to grow apart.
It happened in the space between who you were and who you are becoming.

Most people carry guilt about this. They review the timeline, looking for the moment they chose wrong, the conversation that went sideways, the point where they should have done something differently.

But growing apart from people you genuinely loved is not always the result of a rupture. Sometimes it is the natural consequence of becoming someone your former relationships were never designed to hold.

The relationships that formed around a version of you that no longer exists are not failures. They are evidence that something in you actually changed.

Not every relationship was built to hold both versions of you. And that is not a loss you need to explain or apologize for.