DocShellie: Emerging You

One of the most important leadership lessons I’ve learned didn’t come from a classroom, a coaching certification, or a boardroom.

It came from a pickleball court.

Missed shots happen.
Bad calls happen.
Bad games happen.

The best players don’t spend much time arguing with the last point.

They focus on the next one.

That lesson applies everywhere else in life.

The meeting that didn’t go well.
The conversation you wish you’d handled differently.
The opportunity you missed.
The mistake you made.

You can’t win the point that’s already over. You can only play the next one.

What’s one “next shot” you’re focused on right now?

A little tea. A little quiet. A little perspective.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how much pressure we put on ourselves to constantly produce, achieve, improve, optimize, and push forward. Sometimes the most productive thing we can do is pause long enough to hear ourselves think. (I LOVE think time!)

Not every season is about acceleration.

Some seasons are about reflection.
Some are about recovery.
Some are about deciding what deserves your energy moving forward.

Today (after a little golf) I’m choosing tea, a slower pace, and a little breathing room.

What are you choosing for yourself this weekend?

I think a lot of people are calling themselves “burned out” when what they may actually be is overextended and there is a difference.

Burnout often comes after prolonged depletion. Overextension is what happens when too many responsibilities, expectations, emotions, and obligations are competing for the same finite energy.

I know that feeling personally -- when nothing is technically wrong, though your brain is tired, your patience is shorter, and even small tasks feel heavier than they should.

That’s what inspired this She Rises Daily episode:
🎙️ 443: You’re Not Burned Out, You’re Overextended.

Maybe the answer isn’t pushing harder. Maybe it’s reevaluating what’s asking too much of you.

I spent several hours over the past 6 weeks facilitating virtual DiSC sessions with a small team in Hawaii.

Today, I received a giant bag of pineapple gummies (yes… shaped like pineapples 🍍) and a handwritten card filled with the kindest notes.

Here’s what I keep coming back to; you never really know what lands with people.

…The questions you ask.
…The pause and space you allow.
…The moment you encourage someone to speak.

It might feel small in the moment, but it rarely is. Sometimes, it stays with people longer than you’ll ever know… And sometimes, it finds its way back to you in the sweetest ways.