Wild Moon Sleep Coaching

So many sleep problems could be solved if we stopped treating wake window charts as rules!

Here’s the thing: these charts are usually based on babies with higher sleep needs and relatively smooth sleep. If you’re finding your way to sleep accounts like mine, chances are that’s not your baby.

Most babies struggling with sleep are mid to low sleep needs who actually need MORE awake time, not less - to build enough sleep pressure to fall asleep and stay asleep.

That means shortening wake windows or adding more sleep isn’t the fix. It makes sleep even more challenging.

So don’t be afraid to stretch those wake windows a little bit and watch the magic happen! ✨

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We’re so afraid of damaging attachment that we let our own boundaries disappear.

But a loving “no” or “not right now” doesn’t break attachment, it actually builds it. You say no, they feel big feelings, you support them through it. That’s secure attachment in real time.

If we really want to teach consent, we need to teach both sides of it. Consent doesn't just mean "no," it means the other person has to respect your "no."

Saying “no” might sound like:

🤍 “I don’t like that, it doesn’t feel good to me when you ___ (pull my hair, twist my skin, tug my shirt down)

🤍 “I can’t play right now, I need to eat.”

🤍 “I hear you want to nurse. We’re not nursing all night anymore. You can have milk in the morning.”

When you model boundaries, especially around your body you teach them how to set their own, AND you help them learn that disappointment is survivable, and that other people’s needs matter too. 💛

A crib isn’t your only path to independent sleep. 🌙

For families coming from long-term bed sharing, a floor bed can be a really supportive option, and most of the time I will recommend this over a crib transition.

The issue is not the crib itself. It’s that a child who has never slept on their own needs intentional support feeling secure in this transition. In my opinion, this process should look a little different than sleep training a child who’s already used to sleeping solo.

If you’d like to work with a sleep coach that is certified to work with floor bed and bed sharing families, I’m your gal! DM me to see how I can best support you. 💛

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I’m gonna be straight up… it’s ok to make a sleep change, even if your child doesn’t like it 🫣

We’ve somehow convinced ourselves that if our child protests a change around sleep, it means we shouldn’t do it. But daytime boundaries or changes? We don’t really question those the same way.

Let’s be real: you’re not making sleep changes for fun. You’re likely making them for very valid reasons.

🌛The sleep association you once used is not working anymore

🌛 Your back can’t handle the 2 a.m. bouncing sessions anymore.

🌛 You want your bnb back (bed n b***s 😋)

🌛 Your mental health and well being are tanking from exhaustion

🌛 You have to go back to work and need sleep to work with other caretakers.

Here’s the part no one tells you:

You can set a boundary AND be a responsive, connected parent at the same time.

Making a sleep change doesn’t have to mean:

🚫 Leaving them alone to cry.

🚫 Stopping bed-sharing if you aren’t ready.

🚫 night-weaning.

It just means being a clear, consistent leader through a hard transition.

Change can feel impossible when you’re doing it alone or without a plan. If you want a personalized, co-created plan and support as you navigate changes, DM CHANGE and let’s talk. 💛

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If you cannot stand to hear your baby cry, sleep changes are going to feel extremely hard.

And honestly, this is often where parenting as a whole gets hard too: when we cannot tolerate our child’s distress.

Whether you’re moving away from co-sleeping or changing how baby falls asleep, your baby will have big feelings about this change. They have preferences of how they like things to be done.

But what if the goal wasn’t to avoid the crying, but to be there with them through it?

When we move from fixing to witnessing, we show them that they are safe, supported and love even when things are different or hard.

This applies to all things parenting, not just sleep!

It’s ok to make a sleep change if things are no longer working. It is not selfish to want longer stretches and easier nights.

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Don’t let anyone convince you that your only options are to suffer through exhausting nights or jump straight to cry it out.

There is space in between.

Space where you can keep a night feed or two but not be latched all night.

Space where you can move away from bedsharing without leaving your baby alone.

Space where your child can learn a new way to fall asleep with you right beside them.

Space where your mental health and capacity matter too.

You can support your baby AND make sleep feel more sustainable for the whole family.

If you’re ready for longer stretches and would like to co-create a plan that actually fits your family, comment or DM me SLEEP

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You’re likely making evenings unnecessarily harder for yourself (and your baby) by putting your baby to bed early. 🫣

If you have a bedtime in the 6-7:30 range and you’re getting false starts or difficulty settling, try pushing bedtime out slowly. This might mean some stretching of wake windows (which you don’t need to be scared of! 9 out of 10 families come to me with wake windows that are too short).

Also a reminder that if you tried a later bedtime once 3 months ago, it doesn’t count. Any change requires consistency to determine if it’s working. Give it at least a week so baby’s body can adjust, then evaluate.

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