Educational Awareness Hub

Hello Adult- Children! How is everyone doing? Has any of you descovered what may be considered a part of the new norm for our country? I keep watchiing to see if I can spot anything stationary but everythings seems to be in a state of motion. People are so con- fused by whats been tore up and eradicated that they cannot see anything that could be considered here to stay for any lengthy time. I have not seen any new ideas or perceptions
that has impressed me enough to want them made a permanent fixture in out society.
In consideration for what is going on around us I thought writing about our childrem might make all of us feel better about our life right now. So , I decided to take a writing from my book" Breaking thr Cycle of Family Dysfunct-
tion" at this time.
Emotional Feelings!
Human beings were created to be sensitive and feeling in nature. These feelings did not just appear out of the blue at a certain time
in our life. In fact, they were present at our birth. For, new born infants feel before they can talk. Newborns feel whether they are
loved or not wanted. Parents communicate
this to the child in a variety of ways. Holding or
caressing the child tells the child he is cared about and that someone cares about him and that they are so glad he is alive. On the other hand, non- touching and ignoring the emotional needs of the child leaves the child in an emot- ional abyss that neither affirms or denies it's
emotional existence in life. Studies have shown that children who are not held and nurtured can become physically ill and even die.
Children are warm, loving little beings. They show unbiased feelings toward each other in
their every day life. They love each other without condition and forgive each other without reservation. They do not have to ponder over the rationale of whether or not the other child deserves to be treated with love and kindness. Children have a natural feeling level,
If they are sad, happy, lonely or glad , it is reflected in their actions and behaviors. They
reveal their feelings without being coy or show-
ing pride.
But, children do not always stay in step with
their feelings. For, at a certain time in their life,
they begin to realize that it is not okay or safe
to expose this vulnerable side of themselves
to others. Instead, the child begins to stifle
their feelings and pretend they do not exist
any longer. Unfortunately, feelings eventually takes second place to the intellectual know-
ledge in the head. It is as if feelings no longer
have a place in the human world. But, intellect-
ualizing feelings away does not always work.
Instead, they often just go underground and
come out in a variety of other forms ( ulcers-
relating to stress, migraine headaches, partying, staying busy at work and substance addiction. All of these avoidance
techniques are used to numb feelings out so they will not be felt. Feelings have a life of their own and denial can only keep them in check
part of the time. Feelings were not created to be controlled. But, instead were meant to be
experienced. To be fully alive, a risk has to be taken to experience, to explore and understand feelings rather than deny their existence. Denial prevents us from experiencing the whole realm of beautiful feelings that makes us truely human and makes life worth living.
It is so sad that our children have it right and natural. They know how to give and take unconditional love. But, they lose this ability when the head begins to intellectualize. Also,
our culture has been one that encouraged everyone to hid their feelings. Exposure of feelings was considered being weak and
emotional. Indivduals got shamed for expressing true feelings.
In next writing, conditional love as opposed to unconditional love will be discussed. Have
a good week! Stay safe and well!

Katie Conrey M.A