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A lot of women think they “lost themselves” because of aging, hormones, stress, motherhood, marriage, responsibility, or perimenopause.
And yes, those things matter.
But what almost nobody talks about is the years of self-abandonment that came before the numbness.
The years of overriding your body.
Swallowing emotions.
Ignoring your hunger.
Performing instead of feeling.
Living in your head instead of your body.
Eventually your system adapts.
Not just by shutting down pain…
but by shutting down pleasure too.
That flatness so many women feel in midlife?
It is not proof that you’re broken.
And it is not the end of your aliveness.
Your body can reconnect.
Your desire can return.
Your pleasure can deepen.
Your capacity to feel can come back online.
But you do not think your way there.
You feel your way there.
That’s why I created The Return.
Not as more information.
As an experience.
A way back into your body, your truth, your pleasure, and the parts of yourself you thought were gone forever.
Start there (link in bio - or comment “RETURN” and I’ll DM it to you)
05/13/2026
I think a lot of women assume they’ve “lost themselves” when what’s actually happened is much quieter than that.
You’ve overridden yourself so many times that your body stopped expecting to be listened to.
And eventually?
That affects everything.
Your desire.
Your energy.
Your openness.
Your pleasure.
Your relationship with LIFE.
The body is intelligent.
If your system never gets to:
• slow down
• soften
• rest
• say no
• feel
• receive
• want
…eventually it stops opening.
Not because you’re broken.
Because your body adapted.
This is why The Return exists.
Not as another thing to achieve.
As a way back into yourself.
Find the link to access it in my bio — or comment “RETURN” 👇 and I’ll DM it to you.
💋, Marta
05/06/2026
You’ve probably had moments where you thought:
“Why can’t I just relax?”
“Why can’t I fully enjoy this?”
“Why am I still so in my head?”
And the answer usually isn’t:
because something is wrong with you.
It’s that you were taught to monitor yourself
instead of experience yourself.
To be likable.
Easy.
Pleasant.
Desirable.
To pay attention
to how you were being perceived…
instead of paying attention
to what was actually happening
inside your body.
So now,
even when something feels good,
part of you is still observing yourself from the outside.
Wondering:
Am I doing this right?
Do I look okay?
Shouldn’t I feel more by now?
That constant self-monitoring disconnects you
from intimacy,
joy,
rest,
desire,
aliveness,
and pleasure itself.
Not because you’re incapable of feeling.
But because you were never taught
how to stop watching yourself long enough
to actually experience what’s happening.
That’s why I created The Return.
Not as another thing to achieve.
But as an experience
that helps you reconnect
to sensation,
presence,
and the parts of yourself
you’ve spent years hovering above.
Comment RETURN 👇
or click the link in my bio.
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