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How conflict makes us hypocritical. Interesting article.

The Other Side Always Seems Hypocritical I’ve noticed that when people are in the destructive conflict cycle, the other side always seems hypocritical. This is a natural feature of the weakness and self-absorption that characterize destructive conflict. Check out these examples: Al: Hey, how about some respect for the office of the Presi...

Boundaries. At the heart of conflict, whether in families or nations, are assumptions about boundaries. It is in the intimacy of close relationship that boundaries are most misunderstood. For instance, imagine I love to share baby pictures of my children with everyone. That's normal, right?

But maybe when they become adults, and they are very particular about whether an embarrassing picture is posted to FB or shared with a new boyfriend, I am now crossing boundaries to share some of these baby pictures. My narrative about being their mother has clashed with their boundaries as autonomous adults.

We can't know what we've done to push a boundary unless we ask, and we have to be open to the answer. No matter how close we are in relationship, we have to respect the boundary of the Other. This is an act of love.

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Fighting in a relationship: The gift of anger What if fighting in a relationship is a signal that something is right instead of wrong? This story illustrates how fights can signal healthy relationships.