Creativ CausE

comes in small steps.

Note: Supporting someone through grief takes patience. 🥰I hope you have time for me today.

After six months, I finally got the nerves to have my nephew's car towed to my house. As I sat waiting for AAA to arrive, my dear friend asked, "How do you feel about that?❤️"

The question first brought a flood of emotions (real tears). Then,I started thinking about how to respond to her question.  Here are a few thoughts that came to mind:

💔We must face REALITY. The thought of seeing (Rafiel's) car in my yard every day would mean facing the reality that I had been avoiding.

💛Cumulative grief is HARD!! Losing so many (close) relatives/friends in such a short time period makes it challenging to grieve 🤷🏾‍♀️properly. Every time I think about one nephew, I can't help but think about the other three. And then I think about how watching my big brother (a splitting image of our dad) decline was like watching dad transition all over again. How do you go by processing each one, individually?
💙Go NUMB or Dissociate. Dealing with trauma while deployed equipped me with the skill to do both. I am aware that neither is healthy, but for now, it's how I cope. In my mind, tough situations are turned into a [mission]. After all, I was trained to be [mentally tough and always place the mission first].
💚My family is MY MISSION. YOU are my mission. It was(is) hard to see everyone in my family and yours deal with sudden losses and other adversities, and not know how to make them feel better. Being in such close proximity to each loss, there were several things that were discovered in the process that I believe many others can benefit from. In case you didn't figure it out, it's also a way to turn my pain into purpose.

WHEWWWWWWWW!!!
❤️THANK YOU!! ...for allowing me to express my feelings. I needed to get that out so I could go on about my day.

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