The Subtle Statement

In-A-Relationship Anxiety

Being in a relationship can give you a complex set of feelings towards things and situations. And such feelings are of different kinds too. The toxic feeling in a relationship is one of them --which alot of us is mostly familiar with. I'll try to make this short and brief as much as I can. I dont know how to specifically express everything to stress out the main points but.. here it goes.

When one has been through a toxic relationship from the past, things can be at times challenging with them.. if you're gf/bf has been through one before, know that they have (1) Trust issues — being lied to/cheated on hurts, a load lot. Which will lead them to feel insecure, resulting to them protecting low self esteem. They have self doubts and they'd feel like they're not good enough for someone. Heartbreaking as it already is, it's one of the toughest things they are trying to overcome.
May you be patient and genuine enough to make time, to reassure and remind them of their worth, that they are loved, they are enough, and you are proud of him/her. (2)Trauma, they hate it when flashbacks keep popping out of nowhere in their thoughts from the things that hurt them the most. Those that they wish they've buried for the rest of their lives. Most of the time, they will never tell you — and that's painful.
May you never get tired of giving kisses, cuddles and snuggles everytime you are next to them. Basically, just treat them right. (3) They overthink ,(so) sensitive, and (or) has the need to say sorry everytime. A common result from trauma, their system will automatically think that if something is wrong or when you have misunderstandings, it's always their fault.
They cry or walk away out of fear that they'll reexperience the amount of pain they have felt from the past. To them, they would choose that over hearing things that would make them feel worse.
May you be able to set aside pride, reach out and comfort them, if you are in the middle of something — stop! Stop at what you are doing ,if you can, and talk to them.

Being in their shoes is harder than you think. Most of the time, they get misunderstood. I'm not a relationship expert and I'm not saying this applies to everybody, but just want to share what one would mostly encounter or feel when he/she has been from a toxic realtionship. I experienced it too and I understand, a couple of years had already passed by but I'm still struggling to overcome some of it. It takes time to heal -- it takes a serious, dedicated, loving partner to wash away all the insecurities and fears toxic relationships gave them. And I hope you will be that kind of partner to them.

(If you've read this much, a round of applause for your not so short attention span)

- Kaye 💋

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